#8 New Places To Meet Women

Here are some great *new* places to meet women… Forget the bar and club scene or even house parties.

1. Social Sites

Yelp,Facebook,Myspace,Ning these are just a few of the hundreds of amazing community sites out there – of course you can always try dating sites but community sites seem to be more based around small common interests of real people. There are amazing stories and reviews. Great opportunity to become part of a new community. Only problem will be to transition from online to offline.

2. Acting Class

Once again interactive, community driven and people return each week. It’s great fun and can be really funny. Drinks after the event is common.

3. Wine Walks and Tours

This ones been said before and can be expensive but it’s another great option if your looking to find high end women. Could be a bit pretentious if your not into that scene.

4. Organised Adventure Trips

There are places you can go in your local town that organise trips and events around common interests. Hiking , fishing, scuba diving, biking, sport.
These activites always get the blood rushing and are great natural ways to find new friends. These friends can always lead on to something more serious later on which is always the best way to create lasting relationships. There is no pressure because it is such a relaxed environment. You will be outside doing what you love so it’s easy to impress without realizing that you are – also happens to be the best way to impress. Ahhh mother nature you’ve done it again.

5. Volunteer Work

It can be lot’s of fun to volunteer and know that you’re giving back to the community. Getting to know other volunteers is easy and you get to see your city in a different light. Kids coaching, clean up work, big organised student helps

6. Yoga Class

Meet HOT women in yoga pants and lose weight while your doing it! IM IN…
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The gym is teeming with attractive vibrant and fit young women but a more interactive team style class such as yoga or kickboxing gets you interacting with people. Much easier to strike up conversation when interacting than when you pumping iron. Closed team environments open up people to advances in a natural way. Women might be a bit weary of being hit on in gyms… been done to much. Yoga classes become a regular thing so it’s easy to become friends.

7. Art Centers

Most towns have an area where there are outdoor stalls and sections where you can check out the local art talent. Cool little boutique stores and trendy coffee shops are another great way to either take your date or find one. Relaxed atmosphere and passionate people make this a great way to find women.

8. Specialty Parks

Sometimes there are parks designated just for (eg dogs). Women love to walk there puppies and dogs will always interact with each other meaning you don’t have to approach anyone – your pup will do all the work for you.

The Monogamous Relationship Flaw

Humans not designed for Monogamy?

According to

http://www.suite101.com/content/no-more-monogomy-a308013

We are actually not designed to be with another mate for more than 2-3 years. Enough time to have offspring and for those offspring to be born.

Genetically we are designed to appeal to a mate for around 2 years, hence the honeymoon period and the 50% divorce rate in the US. If monogamy was not promoted by church parents and schools do you think that it would be as popular as it is today?

Is monogamy present because of more complex psychological needs?

The article goes onto suggesting potential benefits of a non monogamous society such as increased motivation of singles looking to impress.

There must be a deep need within humans to be loved by one person and be safe in the knowledge that their life will be emotionally stable in a non stable external world.
One of the reasons for monogamous relationships is that they are another way to control the chaos of transient and stressful lives.

But there are obvious benefits in that you gain a deeper understanding and spiritual connection with a long term partner. Many relationships end up in bitter dispute and painful arguments so it’s clear that monogamy is not for everyone.

Those that are able to get past the 2 year honeymoon period really benefit from the increased stability and security that monogamy brings.

Date Rich Singles

The web has made rich single men and women available to everyone. You will obviously have to have something to offer these exclusive professional singles otherwise they will look the other way. Professional singles have high standards themselves and expect high standards of their partners.

If you are a little broke but have aspirations to date rich singles you are going to need to impress them in other ways.

Sites such as vip singles gives you the chance to connect with local singles that are too busy to set up dates themselves.

Remember, just because a single is rich or holds a high status job does not mean they are pros at the dating game or have confidence in their ability to date. You might be much more experienced than them at socializing and connecting with other people emotionally.

It’s easy to assume certain aspects of peoples personalities just because they are successful in one aspect of their life (money) but there are other currencies of life.

Rich singles have sacrificed many hours of their life perfecting their craft and may not be balanced or rounded individuals.

You have chosen to live a more balanced life with perhaps a medium ability in music cooking sports and current affairs. Who knows what you have chosen to excel at but the point is that you have something to give these professionals even though you might feel inferior.

It’s only money!

So how do you impress a rich single if you are not a professional yourself?

The trick is to take them on dates that isolate them from their power positions. This will quickly bring them out of their comfort zone and even remove that arrogant confidence they have in their own little niche. Say your a great rock climber and they are afraid of heights… What do you do for your first or second date? You organise a rock climbing event!

You display high value because you are so confident in your own environment and they will be impressed with your connections and skills.

If you just take your rich professional date out to lunch or coffee they will feel completely at home and begin analyzing your suitability with 21 questions. Get them on a road bike or snowboard or surfboard! Get them out of their comfort zone and perhaps even humiliate them a little.

Dating rich singles starts with the confidence and understanding that YOU are suitable professional dating material despite your current situation.

Just realise that even though this is true you will have to bring something to the table. Be organised and dress to impress, use manners and humour to make the occasion memorable. Vip Singles gives you the chance to get into contact with these types of people – the rest is up to you.

Black Singles Flirting Tips

Flirting is a universal language and black women sure know how to get the job done. At a club/party or social gathering effective flirting can increase your chances of dating success by 300% or more. In fact if you cannot flirt at all then it’s very unlikely that you are going to be able to attract anyone.

Most black singles understand the importance of flirting but perhaps not how to implement or when is the right time.

Black singles tend to be less subtle about their flirting opting for a more blatant approach. Singles from dating sites such as black people meet will be more forward as a result but that doesn’t mean they know how to flirt effectively.

Confidence

The first crucial area step to flirting is confidence. It’s very hard to come off sexy if you do not actually own it. If you’re unsure of who you are or what your supposed to be doing the recipient of your love will not be impressed. You might come across awkward or cute at best.

Be Genuine

There is nothing more sickly than seeing a dude trying to impress a women yet he is obviously faking it. Wannabes and pretenders never get far. Liars and Fakers are what most people despise the most – what have you got if you don’t have your honesty? If you cannot be trusted or if your friends never know what your motive really is you wont have friends for long.

Be true to yourself and this honesty and sincerity will shine through in your flirting.

Compliment

Ego boost your black date and she will remember. Just make sure you are genuine of course… Compliments simply convey interest in an honest manner.
I really like that tops your wearing…
It’s not so much what you say but how the compliment come across. Be aware that she will have done her hair for the occasion. Simply noticing what she had done is a compliment in her eyes.

Humour

Black dates are know for their humour and bold but easy going natures. If you can defiantly integrate light hearted humour and comedy to ease the mood. This part of flirting should be ease for you.

Pick Up Lines Exist Only For Comedy

Pick up lines should never be used in the field.

Sexual Advances

What makes flirting so much fun is that you are being sexual in a completely safe and natural way. The flirting takes place with NO sexual innuendo but the two of you both know whats going on. You understand the social dynamic and so you are being sexual at a safe level. Advance sexually by using light keno escalation. Do not suggest or bring up ANYTHING sexually related unless she does so first.

Use smiles and eye contact to escalate flirting rather than silly sexual words.

”Scoring”

It’s not about scoring… ok it might be for you if your immature or just looking for sex, and that fine to some degree.

But with this mindset of trying to score you rarely will. Women are very good at picking these types of guys and are just not interested unless you make them feel safe enough to liberate their sexual independence also. Casual sexual encounters are fine of course but when flirting it’s more about initiating some sort of emotional connection.

Black Dating Body Language

Body language is crucial to your flirting success.

Eye contact

Posture

Mirroring

Touch sequences

Timing

Ease of movement

Flirting may not come natural to your and so will take some practice. You don’t need a perfect women to use as practice either.

Be aware that you are practicing your flirting with people every day. Every interaction you have with people is a chance to place a positive impression about your into their minds.

Compliments smiles and body language should be worked on every day… not just in the weekend when you trying to get lucky.

Try black people meet for black singles in your area

Ugly Guy With Hot Women Story

Noticed an odd occurrence today…

I was out having dinner and I noticed what I originally thought was a couple opposite me. I never figured out their true relationship, they could have just been friends but from the social dynamics I am pretty sure that it was a first date or blind date of some sort.

The restaurant was reasonably high status and from the noise in the room I couldn’t make out what they were saying. What confused me the most was to see the real reality of a 2-3/10 guy with a 10/10 women… Literally.

I just couldn’t quite get my head around how he was pulling it off. The guy was obviously wealthy enough to afford the restaurant but apart from that he didn’t have much else going for him. I really should have rudely interrupted them and asked what the relationship status was.

From his posture and communication it looked like he was doing most of the talking. The thing that really struck me was how good the women looked. She was obviously younger than him and was infinitely more attractive. She was showing some classic signs of flirting back at him and seemed to be excited about the conversation.

Then I though again…

This sort of thing really shouldn’t amaze me all that much.

Women don’t place a huge value or priority on male looks, it’s money status power and communication that seals the deal in the end. It looked like the guy was using all the right moves and controlling the conversation. It’s just really funny to see it in real life, you don’t often see a drop dead gorgeous girl captivated by a guy like that.

I noticed other people in the room look over and just ponder the circumstances like I was doing. I think I would still chuckle away if I found out they got together, the image of him in bed with this women would be to much to handle. I mean when you see 10’s out and about you have to admire them.

Something of such beauty with him… really seals the deal in my head regarding what women really value in a guy.(if it was a date)

So assuming it was a date – there’s a pretty good chance it was set up by some kind of agency of dating site. Perhaps he just knew her through a mutual friend… Pretty good mutual friend to have.

So if you have any doubts about your ability to date and marry 10’s think again. Try and spot these relationships as they are all around you. Spot how the man carries and communicates with others, if you can spot a 4/10 man that is doing well for himself you have to take notice.

Just be more self aware of your surroundings and realise that looks have little to do with it.

Dress well, money helps, but more importantly communicate effectively. Get to know her – make her laugh – hold eye contact – use keno escalation (physical touch).

You might just find yourself waking up next to a blond bombshell this Sunday morning! It really can be done and the guy opposite me in the restaurant seems to be living proof.

Taoism And Relationships

by anemoneprojectors

If you find your relationships in life falling apart it may be time to turn to the teachings of the Tao.

Your relationship with your partner will be the most important relationship of your life so it’s importance should not be understated. If you have conflict and friction in your marriage the teachings of Taoism might help you to get back to “source” and find peace amongst chaos.

A happy and virtuous life is one that is in harmony with the Tao, with Nature.

Tao is vague and difficult to explain – it cannot be taught but rather has to be experienced.

Many relationship experts such as male PUA (pick up artists) and female relationship coaches use the principles within TAO without being aware of it’s power.
The Tao regulates natural processes and nourishes balance in the Universe. It embodies the harmony of opposites (i.e. there would be no love without hate, no light without dark, no male without female).

Yin Yang is a well known Taoist symbol. It represents the balance of opposites in the universe. When they are equally present, all is calm. When one is outweighed by the other, there is confusion and disarray.

Taoists follow the art of “wu wei,” which is to let nature take its course. For example, one should allow a river to flow towards the sea unimpeded; do not erect a dam which would interfere with its natural flow.(http://www.religioustolerance.org/taoism.htm)

You may have experienced the ability to attract people into your life (women) by taking no notice of them and following your path. When you run they follow –
When they run you follow. This is a poor and vague explanation. You may be aware of the attraction and benefit of “playing hard to get”.

As soon as you surrender your power and are caught the women or man in your life becomes less interested and you may start to repel each other in a sequence of repeating stages of attraction and repelling throughout the life stage of the relationship.

PUA artists teach men how to attract rather than chase women. They teach men how to find their own path and become the dominant male in their tribe rather than seeking respect and admiration where it is not due.

Only the intelligent knows how to identify all things as one. . . . When one is at ease with himself, one is near Tao. This is to let Nature take its own course. (Chuang Tzu)

Have you ever felt so confident and powerful that you could take on the world and win? Does this feeling of power come and go? Often these feelings and state of minds are fleeting because the world is so transient and changeable that it is difficult to remain at peace with oneself. One of the teachings of Tao is non action and effortless action – I believe that this does not mean that you sit around and become “lazy” but rather complete tasks effortlessly and without struggle because you are centered.

Your aim should not be to complete goals but to be so at peace with yourself every second of the day that you flow like a river to the sea. The sea is your goal , but you are unaware of this final destination. You flow around large trees and cascade down water falls as if they never existed. Rather than be rigid in your approach to (relationships) you are flexible and able to solve solutions to conflicts in many different ways.

The closer you are to source the more you will attract into your life: Everybody is seeking the same thing (peace) but few realise or take the time to understand what it really is.

Men seek peace through attainment of money but soon realise that material possessions make them poor.
Women seek peace through attainment of beauty but soon realise beauty is shallow and fleeing

To yield is to be preserved whole.
To be bent is to become straight.
To be empty is to be full . . .
To have little is to possess.

This reference to Tao and the Daodejing hopes to lead you toward peace and give you an insight into a different train of thought.

Rather than chasing and wasting emotional energy on worrying about women and dating learn the teachings of Taoism and learn to be at peace with yourself.
Rather than reading up on pick up information dating advice and dating stories in the forums EXPERIENCE the Dao in your day to day life… You will find the closer you are to source (your life path) the more you will attract into your life and the easier you will obtain everything you desire. This reference to source and path does not need to mean anything about religion but more a life philosophy and belief you now have.

Trust your instincts: this is the Tao attempting to speak to you. Using alcohol, food, excessive sex or hate to cover up issues in your life is like constructing a dam in front of your river. It only acts to slow the flow of energy that is trying to lead you to your sea (goal)

Everyone starts off with a healthy stream : YOU are the one that is in the way of your own source strength and Tao. Step out of the way and allow your natural passion for life and love to flow through you.

Taoist theology emphasizes various themes found in the Daodejing and Zhuangzi, such as naturalness, vitality, peace, “non-action” (wu wei, or ‘effortless effort’), emptiness (refinement), detachment, flexibility, receptiveness, spontaneity, the relativism of human ways of life, ways of speaking and guiding behavior

Resources:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taoism
http://www.spaceandmotion.com/Philosophy-Taoism-Tao.htm

Dating Forums

Looking for a dating forum?

http://www.pullingladies.com/Forum

There are many dating forums online but few have quality advice or enough user following to make them substantial.

Here are some dating advice forums that have substantial user information/stories and interesting reads.

http://www.forums.plentyoffish.com/

One of the biggest online dating forums online has to be plenty of fish: Mostly full of user dating experience and various life stories. Dont believe everything you hear in their. Expect some crazy regulars that post frequently with negative viewpoints on almost every subject.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/f5/

http://www.somethinglikelove.com/forum.php

http://www.matchdoctor.com/dating_forums.html

Sort by post location, site also has events and quizzes chat and blogs

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/

eHarmony boards are the best online dating forum resource: rational real people, regulated content and posting: users within the forums are real daters within eharmony that have something useful to say

About.com Dating Forums

Huge number of threads and posts in many different relationship and dating categories

Pullingladies.com recently added a dating forum

You can sign in with multiple user logins (facebook,gmail,ymail etc)

PL Dating Forum

Feminism Power Mobility and Female Sexual Promiscuity

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Not so recent date from one of the biggest dating sites online (plentyoffish) has indicated that there has been a sharp increase in the number casual relationships that WOMEN have been seeking

The owner of pof predicts that within a decade the ratio of men looking for women and women looking for men for casual encounters with be 1:1. He noticed this when checking user data on genders leaving his site via advertising with keywords relating to intimate encounters.

The prediction does not seem all reliable as it was more of a passing comment and the source data questionable but if true it’s more fun times for both genders.

It’s tough to imagine that the male sexual hunger with be satiated simply by a change in female mindset…

About.com suggests the empowerment of women though media (sex in the city) anything on MTV and also the sexual revolution pushing sex for fun into the mainstream media.

Over time people get immune to certain subjects (eg swear words losing their effect). Sexuality in almost every marketing message and music video may be doing alot to change female perception of what is ok.

Guys reading this will be happy to hear the news but is it corresponding to more fun in the sack for you?

Online mating dating is taking off especially the promiscuous sites. The ones that suggest that it’s now “ok” to love and leave (fling, benaughty,girlsdateforfree). They are all hinting that’s it’s all good to get in their find your man and then get out when you please.

The benaughty slogan indicates that it is tapping into a market that’s opening right up. It’s NICE to be NAUGHTY or BENAUGHTY
- it’s more fun than being nice… is a perfect slogan to ease women into the flirty online dating scene.

With the knowledge that you can be naughty and not be a slut is a bit paradigm shift in the culture of sex and dating.
Women are more mobile than ever before which could be evening out the ratio. Being new in a big town with no one to cuddle up to is always a big motivator

Women are still well aware of the risks of being seen as a girl who sleeps around. Maybe this is the biggest reasons for
women not being more open about sex as a pleasure activity. Apparently plenty of fish women are using the internet to show their real intentions and needs. More power to them.

The increasing openness and use of sexual toys could also be the reason for changes in female intent. Armed with the knowledge that it’s ok to have a quickie with a sticky as long as it’s safe and consensual appears to have brought women right outside their shell.

But this is all conjecture and statistics based on free online dating which may attract that sort of behaviour anyway. The date is likely biased to some degree but an interesting insight all the same.