Causal Sex – Good Things Come To Those Who Wait

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by . Ward

Did you find what you were looking for online this weekend? Did you set up any dates via online dating websites?

Did you get lucky this weekend at all? Did you meet new people? Did you chat to at least ONE hot stranger? Did you get rejected?


Did you sit at home and dream about what could have been…

The sad thing is that MOST guys would have planned on meeting women but just never got round to it…

They might have got to drunk and turned OFF every girl in the bar…
They might have dropped the ball and not approached the girl who was flirting with him across the room.

Or the saddest one… The never got out of the house all weekend.

If you want to have a night of amazing sex with a women you just met (that’s HER IDEA) you cant afford to be any of the guys above… you got to get out their and make it happen.

Learning the hard of arrogant teasing and playfulness can be really tough if it doesn’t come naturally but EVERY guy and girl can learn it.

Are you the guy who tries to “get lucky”?

These dudes are not actually serious about finding an attractive women – all they care about is chasing the first piece of meet that gives them the slightest bit of attention.

Apart from this being extremely unattractive to women it says little about your self esteem.

Amazing sexual encounters are not planned or forced… They are almost ALWAYS the womens idea and they happen naturally.

There is an electric and playful dialogue between girl and guy throughout the night and due to constant flirting and escalation, sex is a natural progression.

Do not thing that casual sex will just happen “out of the blue”…

Even though it’s casual sex and even if it’s set up online it’s still a very personal and private act. You are sharing each others bodies and this requires a huge amount of trust building.

In most cases – great casual sex comes when your not actively looking for it (obviously – that would be creepy… but this is what guys try to do) but just happy and confidently doing your own thing. By doing this you draw the crowd!

It might be chatting with your mates, playing pool, having dinner or just hanging out in a bar.

The reality is that guys end up screwing up the potential of future sex with a women that approached them by saying something really STUPID.

Are you talking yourself OUT of the bedroom instead if into it? Women will do all the talking (I’m sure your aware of that) so why blabber on about your job promotion or how pretty you think she looks?

1. Be Natural – Listen

It’s not about predicting what you THINK she wants to hear – if you actually listen to what she has to say then the next topic of conversation should be natural…

2. Don’t be a Predator

Don’t go actively looking for women that you think would be up for it. Be open to the possibilities that WILL arise if your naturally having a good time but don’t force them to happen. When you are in this mindset everything seems forced and un-natural.

Be a gentleman and act like you could take it or leave it… Be interesting in what they have to say but not so interested that it looks like your going to exploded if you don’t get her in the sack in 2 hours. Women have to feel safe in your arms – not violated.

3. Actively Listen

The more you respond and engage with her the more interested she will be in taking things further. Find yourself TALKING to much? STOP – you might just be talking yourself OUT of bed with her later.

4. It Can Wait

You don’t have to jump her bones tonight – most guys would if the had the slightest chance (which is why they never get that chance in the first place)…

Treat her well and you will find her texting you the very next day… Because you didn’t get drunk the night before you feel amazing and might recommend a walk in the park.

If the chemistry is still there she will be very interested in getting you home. By waiting and waiting you make the intimacy 10X better PLUS you get to enjoy the amazing flirting and teasing phase of lovemaking.

5. Casual Sex Online

These tips are focused on nights out – what if you are meeting someone from say and you know what is on their mind already?

Well depending on how seasoned they are the above tips still work VERY well. If you happen to get into contact with a girl online for casual encounters offline they will be EXPECTING you to be keen to jump them immediately.

This could be fun in certain circumstances but if your meeting in town you will need to build trust and repoir(a relationship based on trust and emotional affinity)

You have a massive leg up if you have organised a meeting with someone you know is already keen to hop on the good foot and do the bad thing. But expect that you’ll still need to pull some strings.

It’s all about trust and mutual emotional connection – if she is not feeling it then you wont be “getting lucky” tonight despite what she said online.

10 “New” Rules Of Dating: Updated Edition

Online Dating Rule #1

Modern Communication such as text and facbook messaging are fast becoming the norm. If you are not up with the new technology you will eventually be left behind.

Facebook is easily integratable with most paid dating platforms and allows you to transfer images information from one platform to the other.

Understanding how to use technology will enable your online dating experience to be fast and efficient. Nobody likes a slow texter! If you can type quickly you might also want to try testing and improving your typing speed at

You can always get around these types of issues by emailing and using video chat but many singles online will want to chat in chat windows.

Smart phones are on the rise and being able to use one efficiently will at least put you on a level playing field.

Online Dating Rule #2

If you snooze you lose… If you leave it a week before contacting your date again assume that she has been emailed by someone else and may have even set up other dates!

Let your date know the next day or at least within 3 days that you are interested in hanging out again.

Online Dating Rule #3

Online avatars are a cool way of keeping your presence online anonymous until you want to expose yourself to others.

At least be aware that you should not leak your real address on a dating site because once it goes live and someone gets hold of it there is not much you can do about it.

The pictures you post on dating and social media sites like face book are private to your friends but you never know who private they really are.

One friend turned bad could swipe some of the images you don’t want to be shared. The internet is written in ink.

Drunk texting and tweeting is also a no go zone so make sure you think before you post something in a public manner.

Online Dating Rule #4

Even if you have been “seeing” someone for a few months do not assume that you are the only one on their mind. The modern day dating scene is far more relaxed than it used to be – setting up multiple dates for week is not uncommon.

If you think your heart is getting a little to attached to quickly – let them know how your feeling and ask them what there up to outside your meetings.

Online Dating Rule #5

Don’t assume that they are interested in marriage and kids just because they mentioned “serious relationship”.

The classic marriage with 3 kids model is a great one and should be celebrated but not everyone is so hasty to jump into marriage these days.

You can choose to be in an exclusive monogamous relationship without marriage… and keep in mind that kids may not be on his mind.

Online Dating Rule #6

You can look amazing and expect great dating experiences even if your 45+… don’t let your age get the better of you. Lay of the alcohol and cigarettes and enjoy a long prosperous love life. It’s exiting to know that you can widen your age expectations and enjoy some cougar or silver fox experiences.

Online Dating Rule #7

Who pays?

It’s ok to let a women pay half or even full if they want to… They would rather that you paid for it but the classic gender roles are easing up…

It really comes down to the person – a women might want to pay half to keep things fair and so that the relationship doesn’t get to serious to soon.

She might not want you expect something later that night just because you paid for dinner.

Online Dating Rule #8

Dating games and nervous flirting can be fun – but to often it will lead to NO DATE at the end of the night… If you want her – go out and get her.

You have to let her know that your interested… the days of sitting around and hesitating are over. Take charge and tell them how you feel.

Online Dating Rule #9

User data is online and just like wiki leaks the good bad and ugly areas of your past could be revealed for all to see.

All the more reason to be honest from the start about what your about… Your date might know more about you than you would like to think!

Online Dating Rule #10

Ethnic barriers are being blown apart with niche dating sites allowing all races to mingle and find love.

There are still strong differences in values, cultural backgrounds and dating preferences but thanks the internet these are becoming better understood by the general population.

Ethinicity is very important to everyone but thankfully (for most) it wont deter them when it comes to love.

Darwinian Dating Advice: The Alpha Vs The Nice Guy

Even if women wanted to be with the nice guy they really don’t have any choice when it comes to attraction.

If you’re the nutless apologetic type that is always trying to please a women your going to want to take a look at your current dating success.

Hows it going for you? Let me guess – terribly?

You might have a bunch of friends that are girls, but no girls that are dying to jump in the sack with you …by Ton Haex

Women are looking for the protector and provider. This is becoming difficult to see in the ever-changing and technologically advanced world we live in but attraction is still being driven by the same part of the brain.

Metaphors for being able to provide and protect have evolved over time BUT our need has not. You know longer need to be able to fight for mating rights…

but that doesn’t mean a muscular body is not attractive…

You still need to be able to provide adequate food and shelter for your “tribe” which in today’s economy equates to financial security of some sort… hence men with money are attractive.

Now money is a funny old thing – because it’s a recent invention of man (relatively speaking) and can get a little confusing when your talking about attracting women. The money itself is not attractive to girls it’s YOUR ability to use it to be powerful and protective.

Of course you can be powerful and protective without money it just becomes harder and harder to do so.

A women can get a ton of attention from a guy and not want to date him (even if he is attractive and has money)… Confusing right?

Women are attracted to masculinity… Just like we are attracted to femineity.

So how does a masculine man act?

  • He has an opinion of his own that is independent of others
  • He makes rational and important decisions quickly and easily
  • He take control of situations and resolves disputes
  • He doesn’t apologize for being who he is.
  • He’s not a “nice guy”
  • He walks with his head up and shoulders back because he is proud of his accomplishments.
  • He makes women laugh

Have you noticed that the “nice guy” never really knows what he wants to do with his life? He is “nice” but that’s about all he has going for him… He is nice to be around and is nice company but he is not GREAT company and the life of the party – he doesn’t control conversation or make important decisions because he is just the nice guy.

Well masculine men that attract beautiful women are NOT nice guys – they might be nice to their aunts and parents but when it comes to competition and women they are know what they want.

Nice guys have no clue – they are hesitant and often a little scared (typically)

They might end up with a “nice” below average looking girl that has no clue what she wants out of life either.


Masculine men act a certain way: even if you are not the man you want to be yet there is still time and ANY guy can be the dominant male… you just have to set up some good routines.

Physical exercise every day (50 push ups)
Teasing girls in a cocky funny somewhat arrogant manner
Masculine dominant men are in control of their “destiny” because they pursue written goals every day without fail.

They have the confidence to do what they want despite fear

They do not give up their power to women (who are constantly testing you to see if you will)

How quickly do you give up your power? How easily do you allow women to take control of a situation? Do you stand back and let things happen?

If you don’t feel comfortable taking control that’s o.k. – you are just trying to control something that is out of your control OR you don’t feel confident with it.

Find a niche or task you love doing and you will feel confident taking charge of. Be around friends that give you strength and confidence.

Being less WUSSY and more ALPHA does not mean you become a jerk.. It means you become more of YOU.

You may think I’m talking B.S right now but you will know what I am talking about once you feel it. It’s a centralised source sense of power that will get you laid time and time again.

Before you get into this – make sure you have your values straight. You still believe in justice and goodwill and being fair – but you know simply have the confidence to go out and GET what you want.

Oasis Active And Other Strange Phenomenon

Free online dating sites are growing in popularity every day – sites like oasis active and plenty of fish continue to introduce new features and iron out login problems and connection issues.

Paid dating sites such as and eHarmony are unquestionable better as far as professionalism and user quality but you get what you pay for. when you are locked into a monthly online dating plan you Expect that the site should get you dates.

Many sites guarantee that you will find someone special witin 3 months or you either get your money back or they let you use the site free until you find someone.

If your budget is tight (true for most people these days) then free online dating sites like are your best option… Reaching out to friends of friends via facebook is also a great idea if your looking to expand your social circle.

The trouble many people have with free sites is not actually getting any replies from the users. Perhaps there is only 30-40 singles in your area and a handful are dating material… what then? Many profiles within free dating sites are inactive or they have not logged on in months.

If you are not having much luck with a site like oasis active (AUS) okcupid, plenty of fish (US) when searching in your area try your next biggest town… There are always at least hundreds of active profiles in the next biggest city. Obviously you are going to need to travel to see them – always a good excuse for a holiday.

Your next option is going to be paid dating sites. The users on theses sites are MUCH more responsive and active than most of the free dating sites – if you are serious about finding someone special then coughing up 20-30 dollars is nothing. It will likely only take you a month or two to get in touch with the eligible singes on the site.

BY then you should have their contact info and gone on a least a couple of great dates.

The reason why dating sites and even facebook has become so popular is because of the huge emotional need we all have… Connection and Love

It doesnt take long to feel alone when you become isolated from your peer group. Maybe you left town for work and dont know anyone in the city, those of use who find making new “real” friends tough now have an amazing easy to use tool to help.

Rather than thinking of online dating sites as weird seedy places of the net, think of them as great meeting places and social gatherings. They are just a place to meet new people.

The trick is being able to come across as honest and open as possible… There are several stigmas and stereotypes of male daters online and you have to work against that.

Using free sites and working off the back off a solid approachable profile is a great start… From there it’s all up to you. Just be yourself and play a numbers game.

Many female members wont be interested in replying and treating this as part of the deal is recommended.

Start off your oasis active online dating adventures on the right foot: with a real profile picture and real honest descriptions of yourself…

This way members wont feel threatened by your anonymous nature… if you have nothing to hide you become 100% approachable and that much more attractive as a result. Even if you don’t think your “hot” or “bf material” it pays to be honest from the beginning.

Finally: Dont expect that online dating is going to be your saving grace… It’s not supposed to be a substitute for social interaction… working on your communication skills and emotional connectedness is crucial if you want to maintain a healthy relationship…

Understanding emotions is a underrated skill… those with empathy for others have the ability to be confident while still remaining respectful.

Work on being more self aware – meaning be aware of how your actions and words are influencing the people you connect with in your life.

This allows you to pick up on negative and positive responses you receive and adapt your “game” to what works. It’s crucial that you understand little character flaws you might have – it’s ok (actually a strength) to accept these and be honest and open about them with your date.

They will thank you for letting them know this could be a future problem and will likely open up about there own “ism’s” e.g.(workaholics, alcoholism and various small addictions that everyone in life picks up to some degree.

So go ahead and hit up sites like oasis active – be aware that everyone on the site is different and unique as you are. Start off with an open friendly approachable profile and who knows… you might just find the love of your life.

Attracting Women: It’s Not About The Conversation

You will have heard – pick up lines are dead

You might be aware that what you say to a women is not really that important…

Let’s take things a little further. What if I was to said to you right now It’s not about the conversation at all!

would you believe me? would you believe that as long as you don’t say anything really dumb like “your fat” or “your ugly” it actually doesn’t matter what you say providing you have “x”.

“x” being the secret that most men will never learn

Don’t worry I can back up this argument.

What I mean here is that your success with women has almost nothing do to with your conversation with her – sound crazy to you?

Well it is a bit weird… You have been told that you need lines and phrases to woo her heart – and words and phrases sure help, but there is something infinitely more powerful
that you are NOT using right now.

You see, deep down we are all mammals and it helps to understand which part of the brain ATTRACTION and sexual desire are sourced from. You need to understand the beast before you can slay it right?…pun intended.

Women really are like us… they have to act a certain way in society but they ARE driven by similar needs to survive and reproduce.

You may be GREAT at chatting to girls and STILL not have a girlfriend… you are missing something and you know it. You have no life or “mojo”

Guys (especially gay guys) are amazing when it comes to talking to women, yet ask his friends if any of them would actually go out with the guy and almost all of them would hesitate and say… yeh I might but I’ve never really thought of him in that way.

A few women would say yes for the sex or just think that they SHOULD like him because he really is connecting and communicating very well with her. The reality is that ALL of them are NOT attracted to this guy. Despite his amazing social skills – Despite his boyish good looks and despite his talents he is just not “doing” it for them.


Why is this guy not able to attract women and get a girlfriend despite his great efforts…and he really IS trying hard.

At this point in your life you might have:

  • A few great stories that always make groups of people laugh
  • A relaxed easy going attitude
  • Solid personality and confidence
  • Practice has made you great in different social situations
  • Social intelligence?
  • Enthusiasm to tell jokes with animation

But what really counts is:

  • your intention,
  • your emotions,
  • confidence,
  • your tenure,

the whole vibe or “energy” you give off is what your really communicating to people

Ever wondered how animals communicate when they cannot actually speak like we humans do?

I would urge you to NOT underestimate the power of subconscious communication and body language.

Ever listened to a person and been utterly enthralled (even turned on) by them? In some rare cases they might even be speaking in a monotone voice…

But it’s the energy and body ques that you are picking up on. If you don’t transmit emotion and a sense of sexual energy when your attempting to seduce you will have NO chance of picking them up.

I am not talking about seedy emotion (that’s a selfish negative emotion) but positive attractive sexual energy that is dominant and persuasive…

Learn to turn on your source sexual energy and use it persuade and communicate effectively. It’s a LOT to do with holding eye contact and smiling and the emotions that your feeling at the time.

Just being yourself has A LOT of merit – it’s closely related to natural game and it can help you ease the tension and relax but you need more.

When you find yourself tensing up when talking to women (sweaty palms, hot flushes, beating heart) what do you do?

Just being yourself can only get you so far – if your at that point it becomes important to implement damage control…

Get out of the situation (excuse yourself to the bathroom), take off your jacket (anxiety can be linked with body heat triggers), change the subject…

do SOMETHING and try to re-engage back into your high touch emotions that will attract her.

In order to integrate this new information into your social interactions it helps to FORGET about just talking to keep the conversation flowing (like you have been told to do) and FOCUS on something much more important…

focus on the connection you are having with this women

focus on the emotion you and she is conveying (this may involve gently touching her arm from time to time to emphazise your point)


Your purpose should never be about getting her number

It should be about getting to know her on an emotional level… what exactly does this mean?

Good Question:

Here is an example…

Instead of asking her what she does at work or what the next club or bar she is going to you ask her more relevant questions…

But… those are relevant?

Not really – not seduction relevant… (ask yourself when your talking to women… is this question really helping me connect with this women on a deeper level)

Every idiot in town can ask about her day.

What she WANTS you to ask is questions relating to her internal world. Now this can be tough because it’s easy for an amateur to come off as just plain weird asking if a girl cried last night so ease into it ok?

A good easy boomerang question for amateurs is … why?

Why do you dislike your work?

the boss

Why do you dislike your boss?

Because he doesn’t pay me enough

Eventually you should get down to the real reason (and away from work related questions)

She doesn’t like her current life direction and wants to quit and become a singer.

NOW your onto something…

now we have a topic of conversation that you can really use to create a bond with. If you make her cry or get emotion (in a good way) you have sealed the deal…

It doesn’t even matter if you know nothing about the topic in question.

Your purpose should be to connect not interrogate and shoot the pick up line “close”

I understand that every man is different and everyman has a different PURPOSE:

  • Some want deep emotional connections
  • Some want marriage
  • some want company
  • Some want one night stands with drop dead georgoues blonds and plenty of them

Find out what yours is:

– I want to have a good time (because without that, nothing will really work out).
– I want to find a friend with benefits. (f buddy)
– I want to meet fun people.
– I want to find a outdoors type person
– I want a girl that shares my love for automobiles

Become more goal orientated by having a more relevant purpose. Your success with women will follow

Hope it helps


Dating Mastery With Inner Game Tips

When you study relationship psychology for any length of time you realise how important the “inner game” is.

In fact… if you don’t have it, it becomes ALL about the Inner Game.

An example of someone who has little inner game would be a nerdy engineer who has a lot to offer a women but cannot control his emotions around them.

He has a degree of social anxiety and appears fidgety and unrelaxed in the presence of others.

He doesn’t believe he is worthy of attracting good looking girls and settles for below average.

He gives away power to women that do not deserve it and cannot seem to shake this weak attitude he has about himself.

Intellectually he is extremely sound however has little emotional strength.

It is this emotional strength and ability to display and communicate through emotion that he needs to work on.

Being able to switch out of his intellectual mind and establish a deeper emotional connection with people is crucial…

he would dramatically increase his relationships and life experiences as a result.

My realisation is that it’s almost ALL about your INNER game.

Top sports athletes are their because they work hard BUT you don’t see their secret weapon… They have extremely strong will power and emotional fortitude.

It takes a strong will power to get to the top.

However it’s not just the top sports stars – even regional or middle of the road sporting athletes have extremely good emotional strength and inner game.

You can memorise all of the best pick up lines but if you don’t have control of your internal emotions you will never be able to present and display them in an effective manner.

If you think you are controlled by your emotions in social situations then you need to fix this first before anything else.

You see women can see straight through a guy that secretly hates who he is but is just putting on a big show to cover up…

No matter how good a lyer you are… you will never be able to fool them in the long run.

Plus… who wants to lie?

When you become more of yourself you will find it a million times easier to express your true self.

This is what is so attractive anyway so the importance of being yourself should be very clear to you.

Most guys PRETEND when it comes to seducing women ……do you?

In fact it’s not just with seduction it’s when your around any women you find attractive.

Why do you change who you are as soon as you attempt to impress girls?

Because you dont think your real self is good enough – or at least your subconscious believes that if it remains who it is they wont be impressed.

So you have to put on a constant show anytime your around a girl.

This ends up draining your emotional reserves and you come across weak, fake and a little weird.

If you just remained yourself around women and remember your manners, you will have much more success.

Eventually you will find a girl that gets your humour.

Remember – you will never be able to pretend to be cool and confident – you actually have to BE confident… this is why attraction and seduction can be so exiting.

Its so much more than a few lines – it’s real confidence and inner game strength building.

Of course if you want the easy way out then you can keep faking it and see how you go.

The transformation that will get you into bed or in a relationship with the women you want involves eliminating self defeating beliefs and introducing PRIDE and positivity within.

It all sounds a bit wishy washy at this point but we’ll get there.

So write this down:

In order to attract the women I want into my life I need to eliminate

– (your negative emotions here)






and replace them with the GOOD emotions

You actually need to FORCE yourself to think about the positive emotions because for some reason we tend to think about the bad stuff in life even though it’s not helping us.

List down all the things you are proud of and remind yourself everyday of the accomplishments

Unfortunately simply talking to yourself is not going to be enough…

To be a new confident guy you actually need to accomplish!

Meaning you have to set goals and STICK TO THEM for a long period of time.

Simply knowing that you have the power of mind to stick to a task until completion will give you the confidence you need.

Discover YOUR own reason to be happy and positive about life – if this means you must leave your job and pursue a passion then DO it..

Life really is to short to worry about the small stuff. AND IT’S ALL SMALL STUFF.

Working on inner game takes time and effort but the payoffs are invaluable.

You will find everything will click into place once you get that monkey off your back.

So how will inner game help me?

It’s something as simple as: Instead of approaching women in fear you are instead thinking

Any women that I approach in the futre IS FORTUNATE to be talking to ME…because I am wonderful guy that is worthy of attention

Not all women will “get” what your all about but there are so many women out there for you…

change your inner game today and literally get a new life in the process

New positivity, No more anxiety, better posture immediately, positive tonality to your voice, witty humour will come naturally, CONFIDENCE, success in other areas of life

Inner game mastey:

David Deangelo

Pua Training

Love Systems

David Wygant

Big Hat No Cattle – Why Modesty Is Key

Have you ever heard of the saying big hat no cattle?

You don’t want to be referred to like this. This means you are a bit like the jersey shore guys – talk a big game but don’t have the sinker to back it up.

Perhaps you have the flash car but in reality you have a big mortgage on the house and don’t even own the car itself.

You are far from financially secure but what is important to you is ensuring that everyone who sees you thinks that your doing just fine.

What you really want is a lot of cattle and no hat at all. You want to get to a place in your life where you don’t need the external validation from others to feel good about yourself.

You don’t need that new suit, watch or car…

Instead you would rather invest the money you have worked so hard to acquire so that your personal asset list grows rathe than dwindles.

You may think that women are not attracted to the guy with no flashy things to show off.
You may think that without the car clothes and eternal portrayal of success that women will not be attracted to you… Not so.

It is true that there are women very much like (potentially) you right now.

They have bought into consumerism and value a guy that can get that credit card for her so that she can load it up with more debt…

I am telling you that you need to change the demographic and personality of the types of women you are going after. There are many financially wise and frugal business women out there that would be very attracted to a guy who is truly financially secure…

Because what does this mean for her? It means that she is able to live at home and pursue her hobbies, it means she now has time to spend with you and the future *kids*.

Being financially secure and not a fake with glasses to big for his head means that you can choose to travel around the world and truly experience life.

Having “cattle” rather than a big hat means you have freedom. They say that America is the land of opportunity and it is to some extent. The reality is that many people have very little freedom at all. They are forced to work to fee their family and couldn’t go two weeks without ending up flat broke…

Does that sound like an attractive life to you?

If you are willing to sacrifice the big hat in the short term for a life full of experiences and freedom in the future then you have reached a higher level of “being”. Few men have the ability to control themselves enough to become financially secure and therefore always a slave to the work week.

Women ARE attracted to men that are financially secure… you know this as well as anyone. But can you put of short term sexual gratification for a future of being able to choose from any women in the world? How do you think a ugly mug like Donald trump can pull attractive Russian beauties?

Not by signing up to dream marriage that’s for sure.

The good thing is you don’t have to be filthy rich to have very attractive women wanting to date you.

You don’t have to look, smell or breath amazingness either.

All you really need to be is secure enough financially to be able to give a women choices. She doesn’t want the fear of loans and mortgages looming over her. She doesn’t want to see credit card debt being loaded up month after month… It’s amazing the amount of stress that can be relieved by sorting out your issues with money.

Even if you don’t earn a lot of money now you can still be saving and investing.

Do you have the will power to throw away the big hat and start buying cattle for the future? I know it’s a weird analogy but it makes it very clear what you should be thinking about.

Perhaps if you will forget about this advice and get a bigger hat tomorrow. The beauty is that it’s your decision and you have the freedom to make that choice. But maybe….

Just maybe you will realise the benefit of living a stress free, debt free life without the constant obsession with consumerism.

Don’t you think it sucks to have no cattle (nuts) ?

With no cattle you have no power… you understand that power is attraction right?

So the link between increasing your asset column and decreasing your liabilities (cars, debt, payments, mortgages) becomes very clear. Thinking about how your decisions today are shaping your future ability to attract the right people into your life in the future is critical.

Hopefully now you have a slightly better understanding of what direction to head in for the future.

Some people are all about instant gratification (spending, drugs) – others are all about long term goal orientated satisfaction and others just like to strike that balance.

Where do you fit in?

How To Set Up An Intimate Encounter Online

An intimate encounter is one where you organise a discreet relationship with someone for a one of (or regular) sexual meeting. This is all organised online via email and web chat and usually there are zero strings attached.

There is only a physical relationship that occurs and the women usually asks for certain attributes from a man via her profile.

Why would women be interested in a sexual encounter without any emotional connection attached?

They get enjoyment out of it just like you do, they like the attention they get online as well as the naughty nature of casual encounters.

Casual encounters are great for spicing up your love life or finding something new amongst a routinely dull existence of work weekend work.

That’s what makes a site like so appealing for men looking to set up intimate encounters online… You may have tried the paid and free dating sites and found the women to be stand offish at the mere mention of casual encounters.

There is a place online where people speak openly about sexual freedom and enjoyment. Granted, most of the talk is done by men(the majority of the site), but make no mistake, there are enough women to go around if you are willing to spend some time introducing yourself. It comes down to being a numbers game…

Some women just wont be interested in emailing you back, some female profiles will be blank and not checked regularly. But sooner or later you will find a girl in your area that will be happy to get to know you more…

Your experience with will be strongly influenced by your ability to interact in a normal fashion with the women on the site (+ your location).

If you come across as an open and genuine guy that means no harm then you will have no trouble setting up that intimate encounter.

If however you are not willing to show yourself to the community via a profile picture and don’t express yourself correctly within the profile description there is little chance that you will be able to get anything out of your time in the members are.


To many guys expect that will be this amazing sex fantasy world (like it’s advertised) where they can pick up models in seconds and be banging them within hours. This could happen and probably does in some rare circumstances but the truth is that you need to put a little work in.

Remember that they are still WOMEN… do you understand what women want? Even though they are on a casual sex dating site does not mean that you should treat them any different.

In fact an important tip for successful casual dating online is to be forward in your approach BUT make sure that you still use your manners.

Orthough these women aren’t necessarily looking for love they still expect to be treated like ladies. By using manners and respecting the girls private space you will stand out from the crowd of sexually frustrated crazy dudes that frequent the site.

Women will be surprised that a gentlemen has entered the presence of and be very interested in getting to know you. This outward projection that you need to emit starts from the moment you enter the site. You profile image should suggest that you are a man who knows what he wants and knows how to get it. You description should be honest and forthcoming but doesn’t give away to much. Your online avatar(image you portray) should be approachable , sexy and above all else Safe. Women quite rightly have a programmed image of who you are and what you want.

This means it should be easy enough to stand amongst the sausage fest crowed of simply by being a honest approachable gentlemen who could secretly make a women very happy.

If you look over your AFF profile and see a seedy unapproachable unsafe man looking back then perhaps it’s time to take some new photos and rewrite that description…

All it takes is a trip to the barber and some new clothes to portray a whole new image. By doing this you also change your perception of yourself – this renewed confidence will be projected in your emails and chat sessions.

Don’t worry about getting rejected (even though it can be tough sometimes)

The online casual encounter world can be a tough place – there is a ton of competition with guys jostling for position and don’t forget that some of the women wont be angles either. These women are “seasoned” and they know very well what they want.

There are some safety considerations that need to be addressed: You need to be respectful of other peoples personal space and needs. If you have any oddities or personality traits that might make a women awkward these need to be fully explained before meeting up in real life. You need to take care of your physical and emotional self online which means not jumping into situations that could lead to harm.