#2 Crucial Secrets To Seducing Women

(mystery method)

Neil Strauss said – She would have liked the old me… But she never would have gotten to know me.

He says this because he used to be a shy short wimp – and now he is dating the lead guitarist of a famous band.

You have to find what’s great about you and link that up with your game.

Some women don’t need keno and negging to seduce but if you want to seduce a women that is used to being hit on you will need to work these tactics into your “game”…

#1 Negging

Short for negative – a tease or mocking behaviour

Negging is one of those seduction techniques that is a little controversial but at the same time crucial to your success.

If you really take the time to study human interaction you will notice this:

During initial seduction and interaction there is a constant back and forth flow of information – each seeking to determine if the other is “suitable”… Because in this modern day technology driven world our “value” has become abstract it is possible to modify and heighten this perceived value.

Women are masters of the neg – Some women feel the need to neg in every dam sentence! Watch for it – they will strive to beat you down and raise their own value in any way they can. Don’t take it as a nasty personality trait… it’s just part of the game.

“talking to you is like pulling teeth”
“your teeth are really cute but they remind me of bugs bunny”

Notice how negs can and should be integrated with a positive…

Negs don’t have to be set lines – they can simply be the awareness that your going to get negged and your not going to take it or accept it. Women will attempt to test you – eg they will ask you to buy them a drink (with no expectation of going home with you or talking to you afterwards)

The basic principle behind the reply you need is that they must earn what they get from you – they don’t just get it for being cute (like they do with every other guy)

NOTE: You don’t want to go overboard on this – if she hits you with a neg you hit her straight back… Only use it to suggest to her that you hold certain value in this interaction and that your not taking any of her shit tonight. She will respect you for it.

But it can go to far – those who don’t know when to stop end up with nothing. You come off as a jerk… Meaning the neg needs to be artfully placed and delicately followed up at a later date with more intimate and positive reinforcement once you know that she is into you.

#2 Keno

Or “touch”

Using physical touch to escalate seduction:

Some guys are touchy – others find it very hard to integrate keno into their every day life. If you have grown up in an environment where your mom or dad never really physically touched you that much it will be harder for you to learn this.

It’s ok for you to touch a guy on the shoulder while your talking to him…but it’s crucial that you use touch early on with women!

Otherwise there will always be this invisible barrier between the two of you. This barrier will either delay or halt any further intimacy. When your in a competitive environment good keno can make it or break it. Women like to be touched in a non threatening comfortable way.

The reason why using keno to escalate your seduction is a “crucial secret” is not only because not many men actually use it… it’s because it’s a bridge. Many guys will expect or try to jump straight in for the kiss (or even sex) before they have even touched her on the arm.

You need to be able to seduce in steps – the first is a simply touch on the arm. Another is leaning in closer than normal to talk to her. She will be aware of the proximity.


Attraction Is Earnt And Chicken Or Egg Confidence

Just think about this – if your an unemployed “unsuccessful” guy who is trying to fake confidence… you are trying to game the system. A system that has been working since the beginning of our own evolutionary time. A system that very few actually understand.

When I suggest to you that attraction is earnt what I mean is the specific factors that women find attractive coincide closely with a mans ability to protect provide and lead.

By increasing your own evolutionary survival and reproductive fitness you do exactly what it necessary to pull women toward you.

Here’s some proof

It’s no coincidence that money is attractive in todays society.

It’s no coincidence that fame is attractive

It’s no coincidence that leaders are attractive

It’s no coincidence that the ability to provide and protect is attractive

It’s no coincidence that health is attractive

It’s pretty tough to fake any of these qualities. They require effort to obtain. You wont see the lead quarterback of a football team without a women around his arm! Because in order to be that guy he has to be a leader, he has to be healthy and he is basically famous within his group.

Confidence in some sense stems from your ability to complete tasks that you have consciously or unconsciously set for yourself.

What I am getting at here is that it’s VERY hard to fake or generate an inner confidence within yourself if you don’t believe it. Remembering that you don’t believe it because you haven’t EARNT it.

There is a case of chicken or egg here –

Should I indulge in positive self talk to increase my chances of success or simply work hard with persistence and gain confidence from my successes?


Chicken Or Egg Confidence

In your attempt to attract the “women of your dreams” or any women for that matter you will be confronted with several obstacles… your own confidence playing a big part.

I wont list ways to increase your own confidence but I will address a common problem already eluded to above.

Should you “fake it till you make it…”

In many ways anyone that drinks alcohol to loosen the tongue and enjoy the night are doing exactly that. The boost in confidence that you feel while intoxicated is a cheap and immediate way to fake some sort of attractive exterior.

But once again it’s fake – the next morning you feel worse and you are no further ahead. So I’m going to suggest that true confidence comes from your own personal triumphs.

Women Can Spot A Fake

Are you aware of them “the bitch test” or “shit test”

Unless you are aware that this is going on in social dynamics you miss it completely and you end up being the victim of these tests that women use.

Women that are used to a lot of male attention need a way to qualify a guy and test if he is faking authority and confidence.

They will attempt to put you down or lower your value in an attempt to higher their own. If you take this put down seriously and accept it they know that your of “lesser value”.

They will also ask you do something arbitrary to see if you are validation seeking. There is a video below that talks about this (mystery method)

I wanted to bring this up because it’s so crucial to notice when your talking to women. Most guys will take these innocent bullshit tests from women and fail because they are not aware whats going on. Plus it ties in with the fact that attraction is earnt – she has to give  you something first! Watch the video.











Hot Lonely Women Seeking Overweight Balding Man

Did I get your attention? There is a good reason why you don’t often see that written ANYWHERE.

It’s a paradox – In todays society obesity indicates poor eating and lifestyle habits. In fact “hot lonely women” is a paradox in itself.

Hot women get hit on all day everyday – They get it easy and it frustrates them but they also dont get taken as seriously as they should. As a bigger guy who didn’t get lucky in the looks department it’s CRUCIAL that you leverage other areas of attraction.

Money is a BIG one that you can take advantage of… and you should!(think donald trump) Focus and make apparent any indication of higher value that you can portray in your everyday life. Watches, cars, clothes etc

Humor! Often bigger guys are forced into humor to shrug off the inevitable teasing throughout life. Use humor to make women laugh.

You might be thinking…

Where are all the women? The reality is that they are everywhere! Picking up groceries, going to work, partying in the weekend, playing sport. You just have to do a better job of getting out their and interacting. The more extracurriculars you have the better chance you give yourself.

Whether your on the lookout for lonely ladies for adventurous one night stands with no strings attached or a long term spiritual connection… It takes TWO to tango.

So at some stage you will have to make the decision about where to find the women you seek. Staying at home hitting up the xbox is not going to get you laid! Even though it’s fun it’s not increasing your interaction time with other people.

You might be asking yourself… Where the F&^K are all the women?
While the unattractive 40+ women are asking… where are all the young eligible and rich men?

It’s a common paradox!

Everyone is trying to shoot for the stars and land somewhere higher than they are at the moment. There is that added thrill of snagging yourself a hot women and generally a great catch.

When does aiming high stop and being unrealistic end?

Often you will find guys somewhat deluded when it comes to attracting women. They sit their with their buddies arrogantly rating women that walk by… suggesting that they would “do” her (9/10) and not her the (7/10) when they are sub par at best.

A reality check and some real face to face interaction with women is the next step for these guys.

Dating Method (Experiment)

It’s about time I wrote a case study on here about how you simplify the art of seducing women by using zen and PL dating techniques.

If you feel like you are overwhelmed and still not getting the dating success that you hoped for read on and discover how easy it really is.

I am a fan of techniques DHV’s Keno and several other methods but thinking that all you have to do is keno to impress women is missing the point.

Let’s look at the big picture and focus on the critical dating success factors – the one thing you can change in your dating life that will bring the biggest result.

So the deal was – I would go out and try a certain technique. I had to stick by the key points listed below. These were limitations but also simplifications to popular modern game that had become cluttered.

  • After an initial opener I had to remain positive and energized throughout.
  • I had to focus the conversation on her at all times.
  • I had to ask the obvious questions and keep the conversation moving forward
  • I had to convey sexual emotion through body language and eye contact

So basically it was my body language that was doing the seducing – the conversation was simply there to keep her from leaving! By NOT focusing on the conversation and the “what should I say”, the anxiety disappears.


I talked to a number of women that night but I had really narrowed it down to one girl that I had a connection with. The simplicity was not restricting but it was tough to continually redirect the conversation even when she kept asking me about what I did.

I think it added some mystery to my character in some respects but also kind of annoyed her.

(she did come back to mine that night) So I guess you could call it a successful night. However I don’t measure successful nights on whether I got laid or not!

The toughest and most important aspect of the PL Dating Method is the seduction via emotion through body language. You have a chance to connect with her when she is talking about herself. Eye contact, smiling and keno are all parts of the process that might take some time to refine.

KEY POINTS: (why it worked)

Focus on her

I still see this WAY to often – it amazes me how silly guys can be but I guess it’s nice to talk about yourself when you know someone is interested.

The problem is that you JUST met this girl – Just think for a second. Why would she be that interested in your latest work story?

What is she getting out of listening to you talk about yourself? It’s likely that she is being polite and waiting for a chance to excuse herself.

The PL Dating Seduction Experiment was designed so that anyone could use it. The biggest problem I hear guys having is that they don’t know what to say.

The reality is that you don’t actually have to say that much! By NOT talking you are able to influence them more than if you WERE talking. All you really need to do is come up with effective questions and these questions are based on what she has already said.

Increase your energy and enthusiasm

The most important aspect of this whole process is your ability to convey emotion through body language/facial expression and voice tone. You don’t have to be over the top! But it’s crucial that you are in a happy positive mood.

There is no way that you will pick up anything while sulking around the room feeling sorry for yourself.

Say the obvious

You don’t need to say anything amazing to charm her! You do need to use emotion and subtle flirting but you don’t have to tell a big story in front of a crowd to impress her.

Just keep saying the obvious. It will be obvious because after your approach which can be as simple as “hey – I need a womens opinion on something…”, she will start talking about herself (if she doesn’t prompt her to) and from this you get some great information about what to say next.

She might say that she currently studying at the local college… You obviously ask her “what are you studying?” And it keeps moving forward like this in a natural fashion.

Don’t go in with predefined lines

Apart from perhaps an opener you don’t want to go in with any predefined stories and lines.

Redirect conversation

You will often find that she asks about you – If you don’t have much to say about yourself in the moment just redirect the conversation back to her.

If you DO have MUCH to say about yourself avoid the temptation to blabber on about your successes or a work story. You will much more chance of impressing her if you are actually interested in her life.


You may have heard of the crass saying “dont put the pussy on a pedestal”… It should remind you that even 10’s are still girls that have emotions just like you. They get nervous and flustered when they are put on the spot.

This doesn’t refer to putting women down but it does remind us that we shouldn’t give her any more respect than she deserves. Give women respect where it is due. Just because she is attractive does not give her the right to treat you badly.

Why Lust Fails And Seduction Wins

It’s no surprise to any of you that there is a very strong motivational force present within all of use to reproduce. In fact arguably almost everything you do is driven by your motivation to increase your survival and reproductive fitness.

Men driven to make money to buy fast cars and increase status

Women driven to earn to provide a safe living space for her children

Makeup and shiny earrings are all worn for a very good reason

I am suggesting that you should never apologise for your strong will to mate and reproduce. Most guys are way to apologetic. Women are supposed to be the apologetic ones. Guys get shit done and are not afraid to voice their own opinion.

Don’t be afraid to let your sexual energy be present in life! And don’t apologise to women for wanting a sexual connection. It’s OK to ask for a sexual relationship with no strings attached. If you just want casual sex then go out and get it!


There is one huge difference between men who are successful in dating and those that fail every time, especially when it comes to sexual expression.

Realise that your ability to convey emotion and energy through your body language is crucial to your success with women.

Start to notice which guys are successful in bars and which are not. It becomes VERY obvious after a while.

The guy that is not successful will not only be withdrawn and lacking in confidence but he will also be utilising his sexual energy poorly. What does this mean?

Let me explain

We all have this constant sexual energy which we can choose to use for pleasure purposes. When you come across as SEEDY and CREEPY to women it means that you are gaining sexual pleasure from her, you are taking her energy and not giving anything back. You are basically being selfish in the interaction.

I am going to use extremes to magnify the point here – even if you don’t do this there will be a part of you that comes across seedy because you are trying to get something for nothing from the emotional response.

Picture a seedy nerdy guy that is staring at the rack of a gorgeous women…

He is hoping to interact with this women but is not prepared to open up and talk to her. Basically what is happening is he is gaining sexual pleasure from this women. Even though he doesn’t mean to this guy is subconsciously emitting wanting and needing emotions.

This is the WORST signal to display to any girl… especially on your first interaction!

Think about it – women are looking for the complete OPPOSITE from this seedy guy. They are looking for a stable man that they can TAKE from. If you can learn to transition from the taking mindset to the giving mindset emotionally you are on the right track.

So on one hand you want to be unapologetic about wanting sex and on the other hand you have to come across almost stoic in your need for her body. It’s unintuitive at first because your brain is crying out to you to jump her bones and get this over and done with.

You are unapologetic for a very good reason! You are worthy of her… You have earnt the right to be desirable. You are not in that needy wanting mindset of getting something without giving back.

Because that weird feeling that a girl get’s when you lust after her is present because she feels like she is being used!

LUST is a powerful male emotion that you should tap into!

But it has to be transmuted and transferred to seduction in order to be effective in today’s society.

A young attractive women will get hit on EVERYWHERE she goes. Whether it be an ass stare a boob stare or a straight direct approach. She is used to being contacted by guys that are LUSTING after her rather than presenting something that is of value first.
Are you still lusting? It’s easy and natural to sink straight to the raw emotions but they get you knowhere!

What you must learn to do is convert this energy into a useable and effective form. Think about how Prince Charming might approach a women and compare that with how you are gawking at an ass from across the room. What are you afraid of? If you don’t believe that she will be interested in being with you what is she supposed to think?

Important Tip:

Women think of YOU what YOU think of yourself!

So in order to increase your chances you HAVE to believe that you are worthy of her respect and admiration.

You have to believe that it would be HER LOSS to not be with you tonight.

Flip the scales and using techniques like negging and DHV’s you can lower her value and increase yours. Attractive women will always attempt to test you and lower your value before they make a decision on your worthiness.

So to LUST or to SEDUCE?

I hope you realise now that there is and never will be a comparison. Attractive women take much seducing before they will agree to even a simple phone number exchange.

You must demonstrate to her that you are a worthy and confident male that is not swayed by “bitch tests” whereby they attempt to lower your value and increase their own. It’s understandable – women don’t want to later find out that you are weak willed and wussy and just put on a great show for a night to bad them. They will test your character so be prepared for it.

#3 Weird Reasons Why Women Reject Men

Even though the initial attraction and motivation of approaching women is sexual what you really want is the deep emotional and spiritual connection with a women that LASTS.

What if their was a way to become MR Right even if your current personality and situation have you sitting in the depressing category of Mr WRONG!

Would you say that your bullet proof when it comes to your emotions with women? Could a women say anything to you and it wouldn’t affect your inner self confidence? The trouble most guys have is that they have never taken the time to develop and deepen their inner game.

If your like 99.99% of men out their you literally freak out at the idea of rejection!

Not “oh it‘s not that nice” I mean you would do anything to avoid this rejection. The mere thought of this humiliating rejection makes you sick and short of breath.

You might be a guy that has a number of friends that are girls – approaching and talking to these “mates” is nothing. There is no trepidation whatsoever. What I am referring to by approach anxiety only exists when you feel like you have SOMETHING TO LOSE.

If you approach a drop dead gorgeous girl (10/10) you will feel like you have something to lose… You could screw up your “opportunity” to seduce her and some other guy will step in.

Heart rate increase
Break quickens and pauses
Consciousness change

The reason why you walk away from perhaps the most amazing thing that could happen in your life is because you are you able to immediately remove the discomfort that you feel. It’s a simple cost benefit analysis and your disillusioned mind has stacked the benefits of walking away.

The great thing is that ACTUAL rejection is far easier to take than the artificial fear of rejection that you create in your mind. You have already felt the worst fear of the whole process before you even talk to her.

As soon as you overcome the block of the approach it’s a downhill slide to the finish. Because the worst thing she will do is say she is not interested or she has a boyfriend.

Men don’t actually get rejected very often at all!!!

The ones that do get rejected are rude obnoxious or completely mismatched their target!

So you can put yourself in the right statistic by choosing your target appropriately and using manners. Women like to know that men are taking an interest in them!

By keeping the attention focused on them there is little chance that she will reject any question you ask.

The Opinion Opener
Hey… I need a women’s opinion on something
Hey… I want to know what you think about
Hey … I need help with

These questions hardly ever get shot down!

There is no hidden motive and you are asking her for help – she becomes immediately involved in your life.
Being preoccupied with the actual rejection sucks your emotional energy.

If you want to preoccupied with anything it should be with removing your FEAR of rejection.

Preoccupy yourself with establishing a powerful confident emotional state. Push your shoulders back and hold your head up high. Preoccupy yourself with strengthening your emotional resolve in spite of fear.

Why Do Women Reject Men?

There are several reasons why women reject men which I will list below but first let’s get one thing straight. There many guys out their that are hyper responsive and hyper sensitive to rejection.

If a women doesn’t respond to you or politely says that she is not interested this is NOT rejection. Don’t play it up and say you got shot down by a girl one night because she told you she had a boyfriend! Not everyone is going to want to talk to you…

Especially women that don’t even know you. So firstly don’t confuse disinterest with rejection! If you do you will always be beating yourself up about getting shot down.

Inappropriate Approach

Follow normal interaction etiquette and you shouldn’t run into any problems! What’s considered inappropriate? Rushing in and being overly physical with them before they have a chance to figure you out. Using silly pick up lines that are sexual in nature. Approaching with a nervous sweaty palmed stare.

Not Knowing When To Stop

Some dudes just have NO IDEA when to stop! I think it must be because they don’t actually care but it’s more likely that they are not paying attention to the OBVIOUS responses they are getting.

The trouble is these obvious signals to stop are not so clear to the ill informed male approach.. You see most women are fairly polite – they know that it took balls to come over and say hi so she wants to let you down easy.

Example approach – two girls in the corner of a bar intensely chatting about their job… They didn’t come to pick up guys, they already have boyfriends and are just catching up after not seeing each other for months.

You interrupt with

Hey sweety can I buy you a drink?

No thankyou we are fine…

How about your hot friend over there?

No she is fine thanks

Oh come on you girls look like your bored!

I hope you can see why a rejection is going to be served up to this guy real soon. Know how to pick your fights and know when to stop!

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2 Types Of Girls

The Long Termer

The girl you could show your parents… You dont necessarily have to be sexually attracted to her but you have to respect her at some deeper level. You are more like companions and good friends than anything else.

Sadly these relationships are more like business agreements than relationships of the sexual kind. Even though their is more love in these relationships than there is in the short termer relationships their is less sporadic and lively sexual experiences.

If your not careful she will rob you of your mojo and take over the running of the house, finances and eventually your life.

This relationship is more of a good long term play – it might sound boring but it’s safe. The two of you get on so well outside the bedroom that you hardly need it anyway.

There is a risk of infidelity if the sex becomes too infrequent.

The Short Termer


The girl you wouldn’t take home and introduce to your mom. This is purely a sexual exploration. You find her weird and almost abhorrent outside the bedroom but she has some strong power over you.

These girls usually  have very erratic personalities or daddy issues.

The attraction you feel is purely physical and you both know there is no chance of a serious relationship.

This girl allows you to be yourself and celebrates you for your risk taking and wilder side. She would be a tough one to live with but is great for a one night stand or casual sex relationship.

Now the real question is

Where is the middle ground?

Does a middle ground exist between these two types of girls?

If you have found a girl that is not only a good long term partner but also one that you find sexually attractive,

We have a winner… bing bing bing bing!!!

Hold on to her.

I am not talking about a girl that you love and have just accepted that she is cute but could do better. I’m not talking about a girl that is just OK in the bedroom and does what she does to get by. But a girl that you get on with spiritually, sexually, emotionally, in business, in play, in life goals, in hobbies, in personality…

There must be some compromise – but you might as well shoot for the stars right?

Are you settling for the extremes above? Do you have the equivalent of a mother figure that is bossing you around?

Why are you giving her the right to do so?

If she really loved you she would understand that you like to live your life a certain way.

Many of the long termers try to CHANGE their guy – they find a man that they think has POTENTIAL and then shape and mold him into the gentleman she can show her parents.

Do you remember the last time you went out with the boys and had a great time… those times you use to have when you were single…

The trouble with getting advice from your partner and letting her comb your hair and wash you face is this…


The more you allow her to manipulate you – the less attractive you become to her in the long run. You must maintain your independence and sense of adventure!

You must hold onto that masculine drive to do better and be better.

To many guys settle for the far end of the spectrum – they play it safe and loose their dick in the process… who took it? Your wife did!


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The #7 Key Male Qualities You Need To Attract Women

The Leader Of Men

Do you want to play a game?

It’s called:

“Follow The Leader”

Yes the leader of men is a very attractive quality! Whether your the captain of your sports team or owner of a business you are the man that everyone goes to for answers.

Throughout history the leader of the tribe had mating rights for obvious reasons. It was vital for the survival of the species that his genes were multiplied and propagated forward (survival of the fittest)

Now of course the description of “fittest” is murky and confused. Which is good for you because you no longer have to fight for a womens attention. You can use your intelligence to get yourself to the top… No matter which way you do it just make sure your at the top of your game.

Protector of Loved Ones

Not only do you need to be the dominant leader but you must also show humility. Caring and protecting as well as providing food and shelter are all roles of the alpha male. I know it’s  tough world out their and only those men who can tick these 7 boxes can call themselves the top 5%

You might be thinking – if I have to do ALL of this… what the hell are women doing? They get a pretty sweet deal dont they?


Preselection from other women has actually been tested in animals.

If a male is in the presence of a mating female other females will be more likely to mate with him.

If you have a girlfriend you will be MORE attractive women than if you dont.

However preselection from other men is also a powerful attraction factor and a male quality that you need to attract women. Women assume that if other men look up to you there is good reason for it.

Risk Taker

I am not talking about the crazy base jumping risk taker but one of the attractive male qualities is willingness to put your balls on the line for what you believe in. If  you have all of the other qualities listed here but wuss out when the going get’s tough women will question your status.

Demonstrate the Willingness to Walk Away

I want her but I dont NEED her…

If you can walk away from a hot girl without regret you have options. It implies you are also preselected. A girl will take her chances and choose the man that has proven himself to other women – if you can walk away you are proving to her that you are in a position to do so.

Ability to Emote

Women need to be told that you love them and want them – they need that emotional feedback.

– convey the appropriate emotion
– use emotions to aid your flirtation

If you are feeling tired and stale after a long day of work and you know that your not really in that talking mood then dont go out. You need to feel that positive confident emotion inside you otherwise you will be doing more harm than good. Leaning on a bar sipping whiskey is what worn out old men do… alpha males enter and are immediately recognized as someone to talk to.

Emotionally Stable

Your emotional state is immediately recognizable which is why your ability to control your state will determine your success with women. Can you keep it together in stressful situations? Do you have automatic anxiety and fear responses that get triggered without warning?

Your inner self talk is recognizable to other people to so you must get yourself into that positive talkative state both inside and out.

Play a game when your out – Believe that whatever you think in your head others can hear! I believe there is some truth to this. Your body language will mirror what your telling your brain so you might as well give yourself the best chance of success and think positively about your chances.

The #7 Key Male Qualities Video


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Love Systems At The Playboy Mansion

The guys from love systems will be at the playboy mansion July 22-23rd 2011.

You have a chance to be their with them and learn from the best! It will come at a cost of course (it’s THE playboy mansion for christs sake)

Love systems coaches will be heavily focuses on picking up 10’s and fine tuning your game.

How to attract and seduce 10’s (different from other women)… These women have had special treatment all their lives and it takes a certain kind of seduction to bring them in.

The love systems guys will actually go into threesomes and how to make them work for you rather than being the loose end.

Framing a conversation a specific way allows you to control the outcome and predict what’s coming next. This gives you a massive leg up! Advanced conversation control is just the beginning of this playboy mansion seduction event.

For many guys the motivation is speed – one night stands and ideas of getting laid by same night girls no longer need to be a fantasy of the past with rapid sexualization techniques… friends with benefits anyone?

Insider information on female cheating and how to avoid getting stung.

Queer eye for the straight guy? No this is identity consultation – at the exclusive playboy mansion you will be given crucial advice on the truth about personalization. Hair , clothes and developing a strong identity that you feel comfortable in is crucial.

The love systems guys don’t leave out the rest of your life with “beyond pickup”… nothing worse than a guy that get’s his validation from picking up women. There is so much more than just seduction – the success of rest of your life is crucial to the success of your game.

You will be asked to sign a non disclosure agreement before you attend the playboy mansion because of the exclusivity of the content you will receive.




Practical Vs Intellectual Dating Game

Live What You Learn

There is little point in reading any of this if you don’t plan to actually implement it into your daily life. If you think that you will become wiser and use it down the road your might be partially right but you wont get the full benefit.

A lot of the good stuff will be lost in transition and when it comes to crunch time you stumble over your words and forget vital material. Plus the whole seduction process is something that cannot be rehearsed in your head.

It has to felt and experienced. The more experiences you have the more you will pick up on what works and why.

Because every personality is different you cant rely on any one system to pull through for you. You have to find your own unique slant on what becomes your unique game.

What you can use from the depths of your own natural game to impress women wont work for the next guy.

Some are happy go lucky folk who don’t do serious and witty very well.

Some prefer dry humor over loud confident approaches.

Find out what you do best and practice it.

It’s kind of like doing a test – you think that you know the material but unless you actively solve the problems before the test you end up screwing up.

So what you have to do is come up with a little action plan for the day. Whatever you come across and learn during the day you have to be able to integrate it into your reality.

This could be booking or planning something in the weekend that is tangible. Your only going to get better at this stuff if you actually take the time to fail a bit first.

David deangelo and I would say every other pua would have gone through a ton of rejections and troubling times before they got any results.


Practical Vs Intellectual Dating Game

95% of the guys you meet will have outstanding intellectual dating game… which by the way counts for jack sh#$.

They might even be a little arrogant about their ability to come up with a great argument regarding what to do in any given situation.

They have macked more girls in their mind than they can count and it’s gone past being delusional – they dont even know that their doing it now.

Sure they have gotten lucky more than a few times while out with the boys but sleeping with a drunk tramp need not boost their ego. Sadly they could have been replaced by any guy in the bar that night.

Practical dating game evolves slowly over time – it takes more than a quick read of a dating ebook to become a master of seduction.

How you really become great at this – how you become great at ethically manipulating and seducing not only women into bed/relationships but also men into business deals or strangers into friends… is through practice.

You have to integrate a consciousness into your every day life that allows you to be self aware. That way you can pick up on areas that you can improve on.

So you dont just practice your game for three hours on a saturday night while your stoned or drunk! You actually practice your emotional stability, natural game and approaches during the day.

While your at the supermarket you strike up a great conversation with the women behind the counter. While your chatting to an old friend you notice how she responds to certain emotions you portray.

I am obviously not suggesting that you are trying to seduce these people into anything serious you are just playing a little game… You are practicing real life present seduction and relationship skills.

Your everyday life is like going to a football skills training – So that when you finally meet that 9/10 compatible knockout blond you dont screw it up because you remember how to influence her type.

IF you start doing your “PL HOMEWORK” during the day – you will be amazed at how great the test goes this weekend, however the test will usually arrive into your life when you least expect it.

The “test” being your future wife/serious girlfriend.





Natural Game: The Real You Is What’s Attractive

Are you suppressing the ONE aspect of your personality that will give you the best chance with women?

Do you present that mask when you see a women that you find attractive?

The trouble with being aloof, portraying the fake you… is that it’s suppressing your ability to attract her.

You think that by acting “cool” you increase your chances with her but you end up coming across disinterested.

Natural game is all about having the courage to speak your mind and let your true personality shine despite your audience.

Your natural and real nature is the ONLY attractive quality you can use because it’s all you’ve got! Everything else you attempt it a lie.

You have to realize that not only is attraction NOT a conscious choice but we dont really understand HOW it even works.

So you have to get out of your head – out of the mindset that you think you know what your doing and into your body. Into that emotional high energy feeling.

You will notice that the more time you spend in your head trying to suppress the real you (to attract her) the more low energy you become.

The guys that are truly good with women are simply able to access that natural energy that stems from being themselves.

You need not sprinkle a little wit and charm in their or a crafty pick up line because these all come natural when you are in state.

The true authentic you is what’s attractive – You may not attract the women in the bar that you have your eye on but let fate take the lead and trust in the process.

It’ll turn out that she is an aloof stuck up bitch all along and average in the sack to boot.

However the quirky and cute single girl in the corner that you are naturally drawn to… almost out of fate… will rock your world and you guys will have an immediate connection.


From experience it’s ALOT harder to implement natural game out their than your regular masked crusader style approach.

Everyone at the bar has their own mask up – alcohol does wonders to bring that mask down just a little bit but the problem is you get an even more fake representation of them.

So rather than relying on booze to implement natural game… use courage.

You will find that childlike energy and and sporadic laughter will return — you will attract that goddess into your life because she is fascinated in your world.

Natural game encompasses all areas of your life. It teaches you to follow your dreams and create that attractive lifestyle that is impossible to ignore.

If you are practicing natural game effectively… she WILL notice you. Because you will be out their doing your thing – making it happen in life and in your hobbies. You cant help but get attention from women when you are high energy and high state.

It’s impossible not to attract women because of the law of attraction. You are destined to be with someone and the more you accept your personality and let it shine through the faster it will happen.

The trouble is that everyone is resisting their true personality. It’s not helped by all of the cute techniques and systems out their. They do help but only to fine tune your base game… your natural game.

Every piece of dating advice and pick up advice you get should be based around and added to the core fundamentals of your true personality. If it is not you will end up with a fake girlfriend and a fake life.

If your too stupid to realize what your doing (running away from and resisting your true personalty) you are destined for a life of frustration and sadness.

That’s not an exaggeration! That is the reality that you are dealing with.

It’s about giving up control and eliminating resistance.

A good friend can really help you with this – that relaxed feeling you have when you are with a lifelong friend is what you should focus on. That relaxed peaceful but high energy state is what you need to bring to the table this weekend.

Once again I will say this – It’s NOT easy. You might like to think that you don’t put up walls and your full of class but the reality is that we all put up walls to protect ourselves.

We put up walls when we go out to meet women because their are so many people we don’t know. Have the courage to do what few guys really do and that is to enter the domain unscripted and unrehearsed will the knowledge that they alone are good enough.

The teachings of natural game revolve around elimination of the ego. The ego seeks to attach itself to material and superficial things. It seeks validation from others.

The only way you are going to be able to let your natural self finally shine through is to dis-attach yourself from your ego. The trouble is that you may falsely believe that you and your ego are the same thing.

#3 Crucial Ex Back Stages You Must Master To Get Her Back

(ashly kay) with the ex recovery system

Emotional Control

  • after rejection you feel out of control
  • you feel like it came it came out of nowhere
  • don’t panic!

You fear losing who you love
You might be tempted to get your ex back by begging and pleading and buying her gifts, being overly nice.
Don’t overcompensate and act silly during the first week after the breakup as your chances of actually making it work with your ex in the future will be ruined.

Your ex has told you that they dont want to be with you so using words to convince your ex to come back to you soon after the breakup to them seems like your not listening and respecting them.

Your actions wont be effective during the first phase of the breakup…

Gain control of your emotions!

Resist Contact

Either strict no contact or partial contat

– All this means is that you give your ex plenty of time to reconile and get over the breakup…

Reflect the energy you are wasting on emotional energy back into your own self improvement.

Allow that space between you to think back into the relationship

Sexual Escalation

The next step is the most important – the key ingredient is to do something very speicific to capture their attention.

It’s a LOT to do with  seduction now… but not regular seduction. You need to get their attention so that they see you as a potential loving and sexual interest!

It’s not about being friends or mates with her… it’s about getting that sexual chemistry with them back. This is the most crucial stage of the ex back process. You actually have to reignite the sexual passion.

They will want to keep the whole conversation based around friendship related things – you will be working on sub communication and sexual esclation techniques.

To get your girlfriend back… You need  to get her sexually interested in you again.

1/3 of Americans have experienced a break up at least once in the last 10 years.

The rate of breakups increase as the demographic age get’s younger – meaning that if you are in the 20-30 year age bracket it’s very likely that you will go through at least 1 breakup… So DONT beat yourself up about it – it happens to everyone!

  • Your NOT useless
  • If you don’t get her back you WILL find someone else
  • They will likely be more compatible than your ex was
  • Life WILL get better


The interesting fact about breakups is that only a third of men initiate break ups while HALF of women have confessed to initiating the breakup.

So it’s the dam women causing all the hurt!

Many guys avoid contact and will just let a relationship cruise along even if they know it could be better – women are very serious about the relationship and if they feel like it’s holding them or you back they will cut it off or talk about improving it.

Women often feel like they are forced to break up because men don’t offer enough emotional support or are not loving enough.


sex? – NO

love? – NO

Apparently the number #1 relationship destroyer is communication.


Let your partner know what you find sexy about them – she needs that constant confirmation about your love for her!

Communicate daily about your thoughts and feelings about life and the relationship – it doesn’t have to be all serious but it does have to be honest.

If you feel like she is not saying something ask her about it. Dont let the relationship slip away because your busy with something else.



You always want what you cant have right? Well think about how much you would want her if she was with another man…

Because she can you know. She could leave tommorrow and enjoy an amazing night with some idiot down the road. Be grateful that she loves you. Tell her how lucky you are to have her in your life.

Because there is one thing that women dont get enough in relationships and that is the reminder of how much their man actually cares about them.


Can’t Buy Me Love

Do you find yourself using money to buy the appreciation and admiration of women? That saying cant buy me love is true… You can buy temporary false love but you will never be able to buy a womens real passionate long term love.

Too many guys are way to generous when it comes to women (especially during the early stages of a relationship)

They will buy food and jewellery and go to massive lengths to impress women with money before they even know if she is the right one. This is because they are initially not to worried about it… their subconscious is really just interested in sex.

Call it evolutionary programming if you want – It makes sense to feed and cloth the women that is going to have your babies right.

But time has moved on guys – we need to kick this habit and be generous with our HEART rather than out wallet.

Girls love that you are willing to buy them things and they certainly wont say no but don’t assume that payment of dinner is some unwritten rule for sex later on.

She will adore the new necklace that you bought for her but don’t assume that the job is done.

You are assuming payment for everything because it’s an easy way to impress them. You want this women to admire you… you want her to lust for you so you impress her with your status and money.

But sooner or later it all comes crashing down – you realise that she no longer cares for the fancy things you are willing to give her… or worse she EXPECTS you to pay for everything. If you started off the relationship with money it will become an expectation long term.

Start the relationship off on the right foot – with genuine and reciprocal love.

It’s ok to give in the form of material things – women LOVE this. But give out of love for her rather than out of expectation of return.


5 Mindsets Women Are Hardwired To Find Attractive (VIDEO)

Howdy… So if you haven’t heard already Shafin has released the third video… it’s live now over at psychologyofattraction.org

Your understanding of the psychology of attraction and inner game is going to be where you get the most leverage when it comes to success with women.

What I mean by leverage is that you are going to see a massive increase in your success with women with only a little bit of work.

Most guys dont understand female psychology so they are shooting in the dark when it comes to trying to impress women. They base their actions on what they think is attractive and what would turn them on… which is obviously going to be all wrong.

Your ability to understand female attraction triggers and how your behavior relates to how they respond to you is vital. It’s almost to the point where if you dont know this stuff you are at a HUGE disadvantage.

If you are trying getting a girlfriend or getting laid you should be focusing your efforts on where you can get the biggest result in the smallest amount of time. An example would be to buy yourself a fresh new look… a shower and some new threads will make an impression.

An understanding of female psychology is very similar. With only a few tips from a guy like Shafin you can increase your results ten fold.

Tips like which male flirting tips women respond to best as a result of an understanding of what women really want.  How can you know how to act if you dont yet know what they want from you in the first place.

You are going to receive feedback on a date – the trouble is most guys are completely blind to a womens critical feedback signs.

If you have seen the last two videos you will be aware of how much this guy offers and how much he knows about human psychology.

I hope your enjoying the videos.

All I know about the third video is that it’s titled “Attraction (Re) Defined

Also that you will have to get on the priority mailing list to get access to the video. There are 4 videos in the series that leads up to the launch of the “5 Mindsets” program.

Btw, Shafin’s much awaited home study course “5 Essential Mindsets Of Magnetically Attractive Men” launches on the 14th and there are 2 things you need to know about it:

1. He is selling only 1000 copies of it. No sales hype, the man absolutely wont sell any more. (I know, crazy!)

2. I am one of the few partners who are on board for the coveted “5 Mindsets” program.

So if you are even mildly interested about this, I suggest you get on the priority list on Shafin’s website and keep your eyes on your email in the next few days. This thing will sell out before most people will even get a look at it.

Here’s the link to today’s video again:




I want my ex back




One day I woke up with complete clarity – I had been feeling shitty for months all because my boyfriend left my for my best friend. Not only was I betrayed by my best friend but my boyfriend too – we used to do everything together, we had so much fun and now I know why they always liked hanging out!

It get’s me very mad just thinking about all those times we had together and all of those times they would have been flirting behind my back.

So now that the two most important people to me have left my life I am left feeling super average.

The worst part about this whole thing is that all I really want is my ex boyfriend back – I know that sounds really weak. I mean he left me for my friend but I know deep down she is just manipulating him… it’s what she does.

He has even told me that he still has feelings for me so I am not going to give up hope that he will get his senses back and return to me.

So I am really just asking for some advice on how a guy would be feeling in this situation and what to do next… Why would a guy leave his girlfriend when he still feels love for her?

It’s hard to believe because we had so many great time together. Perhaps he just got very bored.

So anyway I woke up a few days ago and was saying out loud over and over… I want my ex back, I want him back, I’ll get him back… It was weird. Something must have happened in my dream or during my sleep. It just felt right for him to be with me.

I new she wasn’t right for him. But I know I cant go rushing in their and force him to change his mind. I have to figure out why he left in the first place.

So in my efforts to get my boyfriend back I began listing the possible reasons why he left and what I could do to change his mind about the whole thing.

I pretty much came up blank on ways I could convince him to come back. I knew that I had been pretty distant and I didn’t really make him feel special and valued that was because this was reciprocated by him.

The relationship just kind of got stale – it wasn’t that we would fight all the time… the relationship just got a little boring.

But now that he is having such a great time with this girl I’m not sure why he would want to come back to me.

To get my ex back I guess I am going to have to show him how much fun I can be. But I’m guessing there are plenty of other things I need to do. It’s all pretty daunting especially as my two best friends have left.