Uncomplicated Casual Sex

Is there such a thing as uncomplicated casual sex?

A recent article in laweekly suggests that finding it on craigslist is not so easy to find.

The great thing about craigslist is that is has market share – everyone knows about it. It’s one big watering hole of personal ads.

However the fact that it requires NO registration means anyone in the world can post a random ad. Such a low barrier to entry increases dating and romance scammer activity. This is also true for other free dating sites.

Paid dating sites have the resources to create anti scam teams to create a safe dating environment. However paid dating sites also allow free signups to view certain areas of profiles so everyone is open to it.

You can choose to allow casual sex to be uncomplicated – it has much to do with your maturity levels and choice of sex partner.

Trying to bag a frisky 19 year old might seem exiting at the time but in most cases they just aren’t mature enough to deal with an anonymous encounter.

Casual sex tends to get complicated because emotions are involved. In general you don’t have control over who you get attracted to (attraction isn’t a choice, david deangelo)

So believing that you are in control of how you will feel in reference to your casual sex encounter is being a little naive.

Especially when you are dealing with sex! Sex has strong attachment and bonding elements built in to keep two mating partners together.

Online Sex Partner Not Returning Emails

You will already be aware of how much attention women get on dating sites… Multiply this by 20 for online casual sex dating sites.

In most cases they love the attention – In most cases they mistake it for honest authentic flattery. Some of the emails she receives will be authentic but how is she to know?

So why is your sexy 23 year old online fantasy suddenly not replying?

After the initial exciting and attention a women will start to rationalize. The reality of meeting a complete stranger online will sink in.

  1. Getting injured
  2. Getting disappointed
  3. Wasting my time
  4. Jeopardizing my health and my business
  5. Being rejected
  6. Getting emotionally hurt
  7. Humiliation
  8. Shyness/Reservations
  9. Rudeness
  10. STD’s

In most cases the ideal of casual sex… the fantasy of meeting a knight in shining armor is extinguished by the reality.

Casual sex can and should be very uncomplicated with the right company. But in most cases it’s far from uncomplicated – both women and men need time…

Time to trust you, get sexually turned on and accept that this really is going to happen. Each stage of the online offline transition takes time. It takes 2 minutes to sign up and send a message – but much more is required for sex to actually take place.

 The +’s of Casual Sex Online

It’s uncomplicated…

If your a gay guy or gay women that just isn’t interested in the small talk and expensive drinks that is the bar scene online dating has one thing going for it.

Casual dating is straight to the point – no pissing around – no social awkwardness… Everyone knows the score and if your not interested you simply don’t respond.

It’s efficient yes – people still flake out on you however it’s the price you pay for anonymous and fast casual hookups.

Your able to find just the right person for your needs… well close to it.

Looking for a 27 year old red head with black twins? you might just find it online.

Looking for bisexual meetings in london? group sex in LA? or swingers in NY?

Casual sex communities give you the power to at least get into contact with a group.

Once again – depending on who is involved the casual encounter could be hell on earth and very embarrassing and awkward or an amazing night. The problem is you have to put yourself out on a limb to find out.

Sex doesn’t have to be a complicated thing but it invariably ends up that way if your either not emotionally prepared or don’t choose wisely from the start.

Video chat – or facebook friend requests are options but they do tend to remove the anonymous nature of the whole situation.

I would advise that if your really after uncomplicated casual sex it’s all going to be about the partner you choose. Older women and mature younger women are a good bet. Use your gut and don’t get carried away with wanting to meet up with them within an hour of meeting. You have to choose a women that is aware of the whole situation – they need to be seeking males for casual encounters rather than a specific guy for long term relationships.

Your online and using casual dating for anonymous and casual encounters – so don’t be afraid of asking for it.

Persistence with manners authenticity and honesty should be your focus.

Casual sex relationships get complicated when you add TIME…

If you want to keep emotions of attachment out of the way – keep it to a one night stand, don’t sleep over and have breakfast in the morning and pillow talk for hours at night will also not help.

So long as a women is aware of all of this you should be able to keep this up without to much trouble.

It’s when you start to narrow down what type of women your after and out of the blue meet that special girl of your dreams… Then you decide if it’s time to go all in and make a relationship out of the whole process…

Until then keep sending those emails.

 

Sources: http://www.laweekly.com/2011-01-27/news/uncomplicated-casual-sex-not-easy-to-find-on-craigslist/

The Single Thing That Hurts Guys The Most: Women

Men don’t let many people close to them – they don’t allow themselves the opportunity for people to hurt them as a result.

During any casual sex relationship men are (in the most part) able to keep any attachment from occurring. The keep the women at arms length emotionally until they they are ready…

When we fall for a women – we go all in! Emotionally – Financially – Spiritually – for guys it’s an all or nothing game. A guys first love never really leaves him…

Your current gf is the one person besides your family that can cause you real pain… If you have ever been through a breakup you will know how deeply women can effect you.

This is why there is so much motivation from guys who want to get their ex girlfriends back – They want that safety and security again… The thought of the one women that you gave everything too with another guy tears at the soul.

The single thing that really get’s to most guys where others fail (like water off a ducks back) is a breakup.

There are many emotions and situations that can cripple you as a guy – not being able to contribute to society in a meaningful way pretty much renders you useless… A powerless man is not an attractive man.

Physical pain, boredom, starvation and any other superficial pain is nothing… until you feel the deep psychological mind fuck that is the effect that women have on you.

The combination of emotions that breakups create will be one of the hardest events you will have to deal with in your life. Big statement.. why?

The pain that you feel is often equal to how much you loved them.

All of the love and joy that you gave and received during the relationship is now hitting you in one sudden week long surge… Except it’s now reversed and rather than love and joy it’s hate and sadness.

The equal and opposite reaction law taking affect on your heart.

No wonder you feel the strong urge to eliminate this pain by recovering her. Getting her back is like taking the on source of pain and simultaneously shooting it in the face while morphing it into all of the best emotions she ever gave you.

Your killing the bad emotions and recovering the good…

It’s a sweet deal right? Getting your ex back is a sweet idea…

But is it really what needs to happen?

Despite the elimination of the picture of her getting banged by some other dude…

Despite all of the pain and sadness you feel…

Despite the joy she would bring…

Is getting back with her really a good idea?

Usually a breakup happens for a good reason – usually there is a LOT of stress in the relationship – usually there is a personality conflict…

Sometimes money and stress issues cause temporary conflict that can be resolved if there is maturity and open mindedness in the relationship.

If this is a marriage + infidelity issue… you have more emotional and logistical complications than you are aware of!

  1. Your friends network is now segmented…
  2. Your family is now broken…
  3. Your children are affected…
  4. Your love-life obviously is…
  5. Your routines will be different…

If you decide that all of this is to much to deal with there some information on how to start the process of getting her back here:

http://www.pullingladies.com/get-your-ex-back

In many cases healing the pain and accepting your differences is the best thing to do. You just need to find a way to convince your ex that it’s the right thing to do. She might think that giving you another chance is the worsts decision she could possibly make. Perhaps it is:

  1. If you cheated on her you killed all trust you once had.
  2. If you let the romance die she will feel no attraction for you
  3. If you argued or were abusive she was right to call it quits

Somehow you have to find a way to convince your ex that your worth another shot – you do this through ACTIONS not words. Because it’s likely your words don’t mean alot to her right now.

Moving On After A Breakup

Remember: Women are the single thing that can hurt you the most – Which makes them the single thing that can give you the most pleasure.

“it’s better to have loved and lost… than to have never loved at all…” or something like that right?

You have to decide if getting her back is really going to back everything ok. If not it’s time to move on – be happy and focus on the fact that the love and friendship happened in the first place rather than the fact that it’s over.

Be happy that you have the chance to love again and find a women even more compatible.

 

Booty Call

So what’s a booty call?

You call someone for just sex, nothing else. It is even less then Friends with benefits which at least assumes a friendly relation.

Basically, think unpaid hooker.

For some people they wouldn’t mind being someones booty call – for guys a botty call is a good thing because there is no strings sex involved.

But the problem with booty call is that it’s used to describe the USE of someone without respect.

So even if a women said… yeh he was my booty call last saturday to her friends she is most likely reffering to you in a negative way.

The booty call has a negtive stigma attached to it.

It’s not friends with benefits or casual dating where there is actually assumed trust and friendship involved. Booty call is just using an old friendship for sex without any intent in the future of seeing them again.

Ex girlfriends who get dumped often end up being booty calls for awhile. They are in the hope that their ex bf wants to get back with them… they later find out they were a booty call until he found someone else… A tough reality for anyone to come to.

Other References:

Others refer to it as simply a no harm done casual sex date.

A purely sexual liaison

I think unpaid hooker is much too harsh!

Both people are obviously consenting to the sex so they are both getting something out of the interaction.

You don’t want the booty call label but it’s not all bad – Let’s call it one rung below the one night stand… except it’s closer to friends with benefits. This is because the booty call suggests a prior relationship.

You can’t just call up anyone for a booty call – it’s someone that you have had sex with before.

More Explanation On Booty Call

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_does_booty_call_mean

 

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-does-bootycall-mean.html

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071028232132AAhWvd8

 

Online Dating Safety: Spot A Dating Scammer

The classic Senegal scam email:

Hello It is my wishes to contact you after reading across your profile, My name is Miss Sandra Kuminber, I saw your profile today and was moved and become interested in you, I will like you to send me an email to my address so that i can give you my pictures for you to know whom i am and i will tell you more about me. (Remember the distance or color does not matter but love matters a lot in life) You can write me with my email address sandrakuminber99 /@/h/o/t/m/a/i/l/./c /o/ /m/ Hope to hear from you soon. Yours Sandra.

Notice the poor grammar - email inside the email – note about distance not being a problem – weird name (Miss Sandra Kuminber) 

 

ROMANCE SCAMS

Go to any free dating site and your going to see this happen – basically it can’t be stopped other than deleting the users… more community awareness can help. Frankly if your sending money to an online romance you have never met I wouldn’t feel sorry for you. I understand that your emotions could get the better of you at times at the hope of meeting someone amazing. Just look before you leap ok?

Basically these users (based mostly in Senegal) are looking for vulnerable unaware online daters to cough up money.

They will usually attempt to redirect you to a site where you have to send them money or ask for your #cc details.

For more information

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romance_scam

http://encyc.org/wiki/Romance_scam

http://www.romancescam.com

most of them originate from West Africa, countries of ex-Soviet Union, and Asia.

What Can I Do?

It’s very helpful if you report users that seem out of the ordinary or fake – if you receive an email like the one listed above report the user immediately. Usually it’s as easy as clicking the flag or report user button.

PL ANTI-SCAM POLICY

dating.pullingladies.com (100% free online casual dating site) has recently integrated a new set privacy settings to help you combat scammers.  Help us by reporting any users and we will check them within 24 hours.

Online Dating Safety Tips

  1. never provide your personal details (your full name, email/home address or phone number) to members you have just started talking to.
  2. Be cautious
  3. trust your instincts
  4. use video and audio facilities to clear up any concerns about a person’s appearance manner and tone.

Sex Dating

Sex dating involves the search of singles in your area for the sole purpose of creating casual sex relationships.

The idea is that everyone on the site is under the same assumption that serious relationships are not on the cards…

Inside a sex dating site anything goes, all niche interests and sex interests are welcomed and open contact is promoted.

You always have the power in the conversation because you have the option of blocking users and not replying.

Sex dating is distinctly different from serious dating (eharmony)

Serious dating runs under the intent of marriage and long term relationships – much effort is put into scientifically matching two people.

Sex dating is simply an open network of singles and attached sexually motivated people.

You search and filter based on your needs – you get to know another person based on their profile and the email correspondence you have on the site.

If you choose to meet up offline that is your choice and the site then has no control over your safety and is thus not responsible for you.

Sex dating is 100% sexually motivated – there may be motivation to find your right sexual match (getiton.com) or motivation to be anonymous (no strings attached) but for the most part sex daitng members are open and honest about wanting to find fun emotionally healthy singles.

Of course your sexually motivated date could turn serious when you realize you have more in common. But that’s usually no the point of the meetup.

Modern day sex dating flips the usual boy meets girl scenario on it’s head.

It’s by no means seedy or underground – members who choose to find others are just in a point in their life where serious relationships don’t fit.

They still want emotion passion respect and fun, just not all of the arguments and expectations that come with serious relationships.

Sex dating is about having fun with many different people – it attempts to focus on an open and honest user intent.

It allows you to create and develop relationships with like minding  people in your area – swinging groups and fetish communities area already actively meeting in the weekends – you just need to join.

Sex dating sites allow you to set up your own groups where people can join and share information such as meet up dates , photos and stories.

The term dating is really rather false – because you don’t date online at all – you meet people and interact with them in the hope of meeting up offline. Usually the interactions inside forums and blogs is enjoyable enough however when you meet up with someone in your area that you get on with well – the magic really happens.

So it’s not really dating until you suggest an offline meeting – all of the dating happens offline – It’s really a matchmaking and personals ad directory.

All of the power of sex dating is allowing you to get the number of someone close-by that happens to have the same motivations as you.

Nothing to complex about the whole situation it just relies on you having a profile that attracts attention.

So long as your online often enough or email enough singles you will meet people. Whether you get on with them offline is a whole different story.

Video interaction such as skype allows users of causal sex personals sites to interact on a much more personal level. I would advise you if you feel the need to do a google chat or skype call with your potential sexual partner.

It might take some of the mystery out of the blind date offline but it’s worth it for the safety.

Here are some interesting quotes from an article from NZ about the dating culture where nz women have on average 20 sexual partners (source)

“There’s no dating culture any more.” In candid interviews about their sexual experiences some of the women who are all in their twenties felt empowered by having sex and wanted to celebrate and enjoy it.

“If the first-up sex wasn’t any good women weren’t prepared to waste their time progressing the relationship”

No dating thanks… just the sex… Is this the new way of dating? Can you really find that much out from sex? Apparently that’s all we need and one night stands are on the rise. The empowerment of women and the easing of standards and judgement is enabling women to have multiple sexual partners and not be labelled as would have occurred in the past.

Perhaps female sexual behavior is strongly correlated to how male’s judge female promiscuity. If having many sexual partners before marriage greatly reduces the chance of a successful relationship as a result of the slut label then of course women would be weary of sleeping around.

Now it seems it’s not necessarily the women who have increased in confidence and libido but he restrictions that held them back have been lifted.

This is of course on occurring in some cultures but thanks to sex dating sites men and women are hooking up more and enjoying the sexual freedom they were born to enjoy.

Examples of sex dating online:

be naughty

adult friend finder

upforit

horneymatches

friend finder network (bdsm,alt,getiton,no strings attached)

Older Women Seeking Younger Guys

Perhaps the best fit for casual sex sites is in fact this age gap of older women and younger guys.

Divorced, separated, widowed or even attached older women are still on the lookout – they have the money freedom and time to explore and have fun. Younger guys are obviously on the lookout but the 20 something girls their own age are in heavy demand.

Not only from other guys but also older men – for some reason 40+ men, if they are given a choice, will still go for younger women. This puts alot of demand on younger women and gives them alot of choice.

Older women can still be attractive – they may have lost that youthful sheen but they gain experience, confidence and perhaps a little wisdom. Many like the idea of having a toyboy or younger guy to enjoy the nights with but have no idea how to attract one. Casual dating sites connect ethnicity , age difference and orientation to one location.

So where would you find these milf’s cougars and pumas… or if your the older women where would you find these guys?

After all some younger men are just not interested in dating older women – either they are not attracted to older women or they get enough from girls their own age.

You can always go to sites specifically related to this age hookup like cougardating or similar sites but I would recommend that you stick to the larger established sites and simply specify your intent.

Going for the volume profile approach rather than camping down in one niche site will get your name out their and give you the best chance of hooking up.

The main reason why this age difference hookup works so well online compared to just hitting up some nightclub is that it’s still a little taboo.

  • An older women rarely get’s out to bars in search of guys
  • It’s not socially accepted yet that it’s ok for her to sleep around with lots of younger guys
  • It’s not a normal thing for a younger guy to approach an older women in seduction mode
  • Most of the older women you will be attracted to will be attached/married
  • Most wont be interested in younger guys
  • Most older women will be after stable wealthy older guys

Allowing an open anonymous and acceptable location for people to meet and discover each other eliminates the stigma and judging that may have occurred offline.

This elimination of any fear then lowers the bar for everyone thus relationships can be established that wouldn’t have ordinarily been possible.

Making the site (dating.pullingladies.com) free only increases the appeal further.

Where To Find Older Women

Even though I have said their wont be to many older women on the lookout their will be one or two bars close-bye that 35-50 year old women tend to hang out… It wont be your normal rave style bar but it’s worth a shot.

Online there is always the likes of craigslist but your better of going with a regulated paid personals site if you want quality and security.  Senior friend finder is an option as well as any of the other friend finder networks.

plenty of fish okcupikd oasis active and yangutu are tending towards younger audiences but you will still be able to find what your looking for – they are all free so you might as well create profiles to give yourself a chance.

Where To Find Younger Men

Look – you don’t have to go far to find a younger guy that would be keen for casual sex but if your no looker it’s unlikely your going to be able to keep his attention focused on you for very long. As far as volume of younger guys looking for sex is concerned it’s not going to be hard – Any dating site or bar is full of them.

As far as quality and maturity of younger guys is concerned I can’t comment. You will have to be the judge of that – it all depends on where you look.

It’s guaranteed that you are going to find immature emotionally null dudes looking to abuse a casual sex relationship. Choose wisely and you should be able to find someone that meets all of your  needs.

Older women have gained alot of experience over the years – they know what they want and how to get it. You will still need to make the first move but expect that they will show you the ropes at some stage. They will be considerably more forward than your average 23 year old girl.

They will also be more flexible and understanding of your situation. There is every reason to be out seeking older women if your a younger guy sick of the immaturity of your age group.

The Likely Outcome

It’s likely just going to be an exiting short term casual fling – she might well be a little eccentric and certainly experienced. Depending on your personality it could be the time of your life or a complete flop. Don’t give up on the idea of seeking out a cougar – some of these older women might be a little nuts in the head.

You’ll thank me when you find that attractive 37 year old sex buddy that’s upforit every night of the week. Don’t forget that women your own age are always going to be their – keep that opportunity open for a girl your own age to come into your life.

 

 

 

 

The Expectations On Modern Day Men: The Alternative Is Being A 40 Year Old Boy

If your a guy anywhere from 18 through to 30 lifes going to be a little tough… But it get’s better

For your female counterparts it’s one of the best stages of their life – it’s when they have the most power – they are youthful and fertile and every guy wants them.

For you it’s a crazy testosterone filled time of sexual frustration with patches of bliss – Unless you have found yourself in a wealthy situation your power and influence wont be particularly large.

It get’s better because as we age and grow in wisdom and in wallet the respect others give us increases. You might find that inside your place of work or play you are somewhat of a celebrity… D List celeb at that but it all counts – One of the biggest attraction elements you can use if fame and status. Women just seem to go wild for it. Perhaps you climb the ladder in work and finally have some say in the running of the business.

In this time you should experiment and live life to the fullest. Enjoy and exploit the masculine energy that pulses through your veins… the continuous energy source that never dies in your loins needs a place to lie and let it not lie in your hands too often. Save it up for a lucky women which you so happily seduce with your confidence and charm.

You will screw up

You will go through breakups that rip at your soul

Relationships will die out

Anxiety fear and worry about the future will come and go

If you get to 30 and your not to screwed up by drugs… not to fucked in the head by a bad women… and are holding down a steady income you are doing better than 99% of the worlds men out their.

It’s a tough world out their for guys trying to find their place – alot is expected of you and moving through your 20′s is where you discover the courage to stand up and be that man. You have to find your voice and gain perspective.

Women want a lot from you – as a man you have to adopt a lot of responsibility.

There is a lot of EXPECTATION on the modern man… Live by your own set of standards of who you really want to be – if your not interested in  pleasing a high maintenance women accept the consequence and do not look back .

The Mating mind by geoffrey miller suggests that almost all of our source of motivation comes from the need to reproduce… Accept that sex is a big part of your life – embrace it but do not let it become an obsession – use the energy to make your dreams become a reality.

A Few Tips On How To Be A Successful Modern Day Man

Follow your dreams – men can get bogged down and lazy if they have nothing to live for. If you want to be the man that women crave and dream about you have to strike out and live your dream. An unfulfilled job will lead to an unfulfilled soul.

Create ROUTINES – through your routines you will manifest success in the long term.

Adopt a long term mindset – It’s not going to happen overnight… or even in a few years! but it will happen. For me the only way I was able to think beyond 2 weeks was giving up alcohol. It enabled me to focus and clarify as well as adopt a long term mindset.

Get the hell away from drugs – drugs indicate you are attempting to escape from a reality that you do not wish to be in. Meaning you do not have the confidence or do not believe you have the ability to change your current reality. Sure drinking is fun when your 18 but if your still hitting it hard at 30… you don’t want to be that guy.

Get into control! – control of your future, control of your finances, control of your emotions. The more control I feel like I have the happier I am… even if the control I have is a delusion.

Get perspective – a mentor / guru or wise friend is helpful when your lost and confused.

Choose your friends carefully – you tend to turn out like that or your closest friends or at least those that you look up to. If your close friends are not going in the direction you would like to see yourself in find a mentor… (They don’t have to know you exist)

You are what you eat – seriously!

Exercise daily – if you feel like your going a little insane get out and get moving.

Establish a great group of male friends – do this through sport or work – guys need that support and a place to unwind and chat about life.

Get educated – there is enough information and books online to reach a high level of education. Continually better yourself and your mindset with audio books, seminars and classes.

So that’s about all of the cliche one liners I could come up with that helped me through some tough years – seriously though if you read more into just 3 of the messages in this post your life will change for the better. If I was to pick any 3 out it would have to be: Focus on establishing good routines and stay away from drugs/eat healthy , exercise and follow your passion. That was more like 5…

THE ALTERNATIVE

So encase you had not picked up the above motivational prose were a reasonable description of what it takes to be a modern day man. Just generally good advice on how shit tends to unwind. Every successful guy has his issues and rough patches… I can tell you one thing… no matter how hard it might seem to face your fear and work hard toward a goal… It’s 100 TIMES harder to run away and succumb to the fear.

The alternative is pretty much a life of second best – A life of what if – A life of playing second fiddle to an alpha male – A life of anxiety and financial struggle

An all of this pain because you didn’t want to control your emotions and face up to the real reason for the pain?

If you take the easy road now it usually comes back to bite you in the end – so if your thinking that taking the easy option is actually easier… you might be right in the short term. But tomorrow and next year are just going to get harder and harder.

Strike a balance and you wont have to accept second best.

I mention that the alternative to living and becoming the modern day man is to become the 40 year old boy. What I mean by this is you become that guy that never grew up – that immature uneducated man who settled and is now miserable on the inside. He has no security, his mind is messed up with drug use, his emotions are all over the place… Worst of all – he has no respect and has few friends.

STEP UP and take what might seem like the hard road now! Because the alternative is 100 TIMES worse!

 

 

Bisexual Casual Dating

I was initially surprised at the volume and ratio of bisexual and bicurious women and men on the friend finder network… I guess I just wasn’t expecting to see almost all of the younger women online listed as bi’s…

But then I realized the reality of casual dating – for the most part you are looking for a casual dating partner. Young women don’t need any help finding sex, any guy on the street would be happy to have a one night stand with a women.

- bisexuals might – gay and lesbians might – 40+ women might - 

But attractive younger women for the most part just don’t need to advertise this sort of stuff. Which is why the casual dating sites you come across tend to attract a crowd slightly left or right of center. Singles and couples that are into some sort of fetish that is not currently considered the norm.

As a bi guy or bi girl it’s not as easy to find other bisexuals to date – you can’t assume that every other girl would be interested in you sexually. 1/10 or whatever the ratio is, is a tough thing to accept and risk. You don’t just ask someone if their bisexual these days.

Casual dating sites for the most part can help to hook up demographics that wouldn’t ordinarily meet in every day life. A 35 year old single mother of two in a peak sexual state can contact a 22 year old guy for an intimate encounter.

The 52 year old guy could get lucky with a 25 year old girl that’s into older guys

You might have a quirky interest or currently taboo sexual interest that is not normally brought up in conversation… You can find communities online that are into this sort of thing.

You might not even be that into bdsm or you may just like the idea of being bisexual and want to try it… where do you go? All of your friends are straight – heck you don’t know a single bisexual girl in your friends circle…

The power of casual dating is not only hooking up regular age and preference matches but actually finding you a person you wouldn’t have ordinarily found as a result of social standards.

There are a few decent bisexual and lesbian dating sites (planet Sappho) being one brought out by the friend finder network… however in most cases dating sites like pof or okcupid allow you to list your orientation as bisexual so it’s not really an issue. These large free dating networks should work fine for you – if you are interesting in a more specific community they are available but will be paid versions.

Dating.Pullingladies.com has a list of orientations including bisexual and bicurious gay straight and everything in between.

So anyway – back to the reason for the post – Casual dating does not always reflect normal offline behavior - certain personalities , orientations and sexuality are attracted to the anonymous overly sexual nature of casual sex dating.

You could argue that all dating sites are heavily routed in sex because if you were going to be honest it’s the root motivation. Even the innocent and delicate christian values of eHarmony can’t deny the sexual nature of the service. Casual dating sites are just honest about what everyone really wants.

If you want a serious relationship… and most do… You can list it in your profile and hope that users respect your intent.

It’s quite natural to be on the lookout for both casual sex and serious relationships at the same time.

It’s natural for women to be confused about their sexuality – some confuse interest with sexual attraction – others are just open to both sexes and some are full blown gay teetering on the gay/straight decision.

For the most part the bisexual women is sexually confident adventurous sure of herself and in general is having more fun.

So go forth and enjoy the experimentation that is batting for both teams. Use the power of the interwebs to find the people that will make your life more fun and more sexually satisfying.

Because whether your sitting squarely on the gay fence or just peering over there will be a place for you online.

You will be able to find a community of bisexual singles in your area… It only takes one to find many others through friend associations.