Allowing Dating To Flow Naturally

Many guys seem to get hung up on the idea of sex and place a strange sense of importance on it.

They make it the target and end goal rather than an enjoyable, inevitable experience.

The reality is that if your on a date with a women that you are really connecting with it’s most likely going to end in intimacy. It may happen on the first, second or tenth date but it will happen. She wants it and you want it so it’s just a matter of focusing on feeling comfortable with each other.

Those of you that make sex the target end up placing to much importance on it which dilutes other areas of your life. While your on the date, all that really matters is how you get on with the women.

This is closely associated with allowing your dating life to flow naturally. The natural thing to do would be to join clubs and groups that are in alignment with your hobbies and interests.

The natural thing to do would be to get on and enjoy the time spent with these people. In time you will strike up a great relationship with many of the women from theses events and hobbies.

Allowing the laws of nature and chemistry to take place while also allowing your natural masculine sexual motivation to guide you… you find yourself in bed with the perfect women. One that you are not only friends with and share similar values with but have gotten to know naturally.

This unforced slightly passive approach to dating is UNLIKE 99% of the popular dating advice out their.

It suggests that you should be doing everything in your power to force certain experiences to happen.

I am suggesting that you should not need to force anything – if you really do love indoor netball or dance that much you should be apart of a larger community. It’s inevitable that you are going to meet like minded women while you go about your daily life and enjoy the hobbies that bring you to life.

Let’s talk about that – it’s yet another argument for letting your dating life just happen. Your hobbies and motivations are what really bring your to life – it’s what your passionate about and what you are good at.

 

 

If you can’t stand letting fate take it’s course but like the idea of natural dating then be proactive about enjoying life. Meaning JOIN more clubs get new hobbies and meet new people simply because you want to.

Make a HABIT out of meeting new people everyday just because you like their company. When you notice a sexual urge towards any one women then it’s your body letting you know you should pursue it further.

This is the natural process of dating – it’s unlike many other forms of “sniper dating” which suggest very specific one on one dates with people you have little in common with. Natural dating is just  natural socializing and it will allow you to use your sexual motivation to form hundreds of NEW social connection.

You will come out of the process with an amazing bf/gf hundreds of new friends, many new hobbies and experiences of a lifetime.

Letting your SEXUAL MOTIVATION lead you is a recipe for disaster because your dick does not care for compatibility.

Most guys would hook up with pretty much any healthy women their own age if they could do it with no consequence…

A good description for the  male sexual drive is INSANITY…

If you really just want free casual sex then their are plenty of sites like xxxblackbook that cater to that motivation. But if you are looking for a women that you can truly spiritually connect with try passive dating.

Many of you will be actively on the lookout for a long term partner but I believe that you are going about it the wrong way!

If your effort to find a girlfriend involves replying to a few pof messages or heading out drunk to the local bar then it’s going to end in tears.

You might get a couple one night stands out of the experience but it’s unlikely you will find someone truly compatible… that takes more effort.

BECOME SOCIAL 

I call this passive dating but it does not mean that you have to passive about meeting women – I would suggest channeling your sexual energy in the creation of hobbies and social events.

If your in need of a fresh perspective – get out of your comfort zone and join groups that you would not normally join. Grace yourself with an open mind about the people that you meet in these new social situations.

 

 

 

Charismatic Revolution’s

The reality is that you can’t fake it till you make it dude – you are selling your real lifestyle… What is your lifestyle? Is it fun and exciting ? Are you “cool” ???

Do you sit at home and play xbox or are you constantly travelling or hanging out with amazing people?

  • 90% of game is YOU!
  • You are the game, you are the product…
  • What are you selling?

You are selling your personality and lifestyle – rather than coming up with a sales pitch to try and fake cool. Actually work on being cool. I’m not using the douchbag cool here but actually interesting.

Become the man of her dreams which means create a lifestyle and have the charisma  that she is looking for. Then everything will fall into place!

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4ErsfqTESw

You need to work on the product…

So what is cool?

  • Great social connections
  • Great shape
  • Health
  • Fashion sense
  • Admirable skills
  • etc etc etc

You agree to all of this right? Instead of working on an opener work on the list above!

If your a guy that is broke bored and losts then this is the video you need to listen to! Get off the computer and get out their and get some hobbies…

Hobbies sports and skills will teach you what you really need to know.

Change is a little scary but it’s really important.

4 Simple But Huge Areas Of Your Life That Will Influence You

Friends – If you only hang out with guys that are lonely broke and negative you need to find some new friends (we become like our peers).

Get female and male friends – having female friends are is a HUGE boost for you as far as social proof.

Acquaintances - not your friends but your outer social circle! Fucking crucial guys – expand your out social circle! Add friends on facebook that you just met – just send out the friend request!

 

Limiting Beliefs:

Looks – doesn’t matter

Height – doesn’t matter

Dick Size – doesn’t matter

What does matter?

CONFIDENCE – CHARISMA – PERSONALITY

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apEoEbyIEO8

 

Resources:

Big ups to speaker (alexander) and under 21 convention and “tyler durden”

Nick Sparks Is A Boss: College Game

She just’s wants someone to take her hand and lead… For some guys this is a scary aspect of their lives because they are not used to leading. This stuff just comes from practice guys – get out their and live life more and learn how it FEELS to lead in an interaction.

Basically do the opposite of what the popular feminist movement is telling you. They have no idea what real masculine attraction is and it seems that we have lost much of that knowledge through time.

“WE USED TO HUNT DEER WITH OUR BARE HANDS!”

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6lccsUMC4U0

 

Plausibile deniability – use ambiguity in your physical escalation.

Girls don’t want to be slutty – they have been programmed to expect and reject sexual advances from guys.. meaning EXPECT them to resist just enough for them to feel comfortable with the idea of it.

This means that LOGISTICS are very important – if getting back to your flat means two bus rides and a subway ride your screwed. The passion and sexual tension will likely be lost along the way. (living close to campus is a good idea)

 

What is Confidence?

LOOKING SOMEONE IN THE EYES – and saying YES I CAN DO THAT – with no second thought.

#1 Male Quality Women Find Unattractive

Do you want to know the REAL TESTED male qualities that women fun unattractive? I would suggest that you take a very close look at your hygiene and your humor… Based on studies these are the top unattractive qualities that women HATE.

  • NUMBER #1 hygiene
  • NUMBER #2 humor

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlJLLjE9_To

 

 The Needy Guy

If your a needy guy - Neurotic women will be attracted to you – your negative quality is your neediness. There are ALOT of needy nice guys out their. SOLUTION? get abundance and be a bit more of a leader, get more confidence and get more social. Then you will have the best of both worlds.

Leader

Attract extrovert women and your negative quality is your bossiness.

Bad Boy

Bad boys attract psychotic women and your negative quality is your

Provider

Providers come second to the above , neg = money

Attract Women: Grow Some Balls And Be A MAN!

This is what you must know… Listen to this video

This guy orlando owen speaks much truth on the subject of becoming a man and the sorry state that we see ourselves in at the moment.

It’s no wonder so many women are frustrated and their is such a big industry for pick up… Dads don’t teach their sons to be men!

MASCULINITY

if you want to lead: ( be the man) then you must ask yourself

  1. who you are?
  2. where do you want to go?
  3. why should she follow?

self esteem = you know you can lead, you know you stand for something bigger

PURPOSE

Does your life have a purpose? Other than going to work and earning a living…

Does it have a purpose that really means something to you?

When you have a purpose you automatically become

enthusiastic , infectious  and spirited

VISION

the boy must die

  1. Why should a women trust you?
  2. Are you worthy of leadership?
  3. Create a vision of your life

Find something that is bigger than you are for christs sake bigger than world of warcraft or any virtual game.

RESPONSIBILITY

  1. become a major factor in your destiny
  2. take responibility for who you are
  3. for yourself
  4. your development
  5. grabbing life by the balls
  6. seizing power

Nothing wrong with getting married – but just don’t do it for the security!

If your seeking security – go read rich dad poor dad…

In germany it’s an epidemic (seeking security).

DECISIONS AND CLARITY

Clarity is very very attractive to women and it comes with confidence and having a purpose and a vision.

EMOTIONAL HEALTH

Do what you have to do to deal with any emotion scars from the past – seek addition 3rd party help for this.

Online Game

Online game is NOT a replacement for cold approaches…

Often times guys will use this as a substitute!

Use online dating as a simple way to help out your dating efforts but do not rely on it!

POF.com is the best site online for online dating – get on their, set up a profile and email the girls that are in your area.

When your inside pof don’t message girls looking for intimate encounters as you will get banned from messaging other women for regular dates.

ONLINE DATING TIPS:

See it from her perspective – look at your profile from a womens point of view!

Check out other guys profiles and imagine you were a chick ready to email them… It’s weird but it will give you an idea about how your profile comes across to her.

If you have a weird subject line or a weird photo it’s likely your inbox is empty… Split test some photo angles and different shots of yourself.

SUBJECT LINES: (tested)

Don’t use the subject lines

  1. Hey
  2. Nice Guy Looking For Nice Girl
  3. Nice guy looking for fun
  4. Hows it going
  5. Hi

Use Instead

  1. The guy your mother warned you about
  2. Not weird or creepy like every other guy on here
  3. I taught cupid everything he knows
  4. I’m kind of an asshole (best)

It’s all about the PICTURE – test your head shots and other images in your album

Use full body – or pictues of you doing something fun.

ABOUT ME: (tested)

Short and sweet!
Keep it funny and a bit cheeky and arrogent
They need to live up to your standards!
Downplay your cool shit (but mentioned it) “i was in vegas last week”
Guess the secret works… (or something spiritual)

Do not message me if your a

  • stripper
  • bartender
  • Scorpio
  • girl with implants

Once again it infers you are pre-selecting before they even know you.

GETTING WOMEN TO RESPOND

bust her balls about her picture (in a nice way) or suggest that you didn’t take them for the shy type!

“hey you visited my profile and didn’t email me… I didn’t take you for the shy type”

“Guess I scared you off with that last email… Probably just as well… scorpio women are crazy… it never works out!”

NEG

Get in early on what she will likely say to you such as:

I just want to let you know… where not having sex tonight…

Because you said it first it’s going to help you by giving you the upper hand.

or

I hope my cat likes you

Because if not it’s not going to work – eg your not invested in the situation or relationship hence have high value.

 

SPELLING AND GRAMMAR

(even though mine is terrible) yours should be good as it represents your speech and your education.

 

RESOURCES:

Cheers bravo:

http://www.the21convention.com/2011/10/20/bravo-pua-online-game/

Porn + Jacking Off Is Stopping You Getting Laid

Jump 15 minutes in… This guy has some important shit to say about getting laid… For all you  nice guys out their that are not getting laid enough – it’s pretty much down to you being to much of a pussy.

As far as this guy (manhore) has to say it’s all about just taking control and being persistent. If she is still in your presence she want’s to get laid. Alpha males and dominant men take charge and claim what they want.

He has a bit about being scared of women and their responses… If your still not getting laid then this is you NUMBER 1 reason why your not.

It’s EXTREMELY unattractive for a women to see that a guy is intimidated by her – it may be cute for a while and you can be nice after sex but before it you have to step up and be dominant.

 

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DV64Unva4e0

Basically stop being a pussy and take what is out their. The reality is that their are sexual opportunities everywhere you go. If you want them enough it’s simply a matter of taking advantage of the opportunities.

Stop jacking off and stop watching porn – the motivation should give you the balls to do what you should have done weeks/months/years ago.

Can you remember a time when you had a women back at your place and you made her UNCOMFORTABLE? She was their to have fun… She was their to have sex with a great guy… But you were to pussy, to low in confidence to make it happen… Or at least you made the actual sex very uncomfortable by not being sure of yourself. It doesn’t really matter what you do – JUST BE SURE ABOUT IT… Even it’s the wrong thing she wont care.

This guy also talks about what men used to do:

Guys we used to hunt live animals for food and lead parties and families through hard winters by being the leader… How could a girl be hot for you if you can’t even approach her with confidence? Take what is yours and stop giving a shit about what she has to say! I mean care about her as a person but stop being affected by circumstances outside your control.

 

 

Attract Women: Live More: Love More

Great advice from great men is easier to come by with the access that you have now…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10 Things To Avoid In Your 20′s

  1. Chasing any woman
  2. Trying to buy a woman’s love
  3. Getting caught up by materialism
  4. Massing personal debt
  5. Fanaticism with a group of people
  6. Not completing a formal education
  7. Getting lazy with your associations
  8. Not taking care of your body
  9. Limiting your exposure
  10. Staying in a bad relationship (#1 mistake)

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_yr2LDVObs

 

General theme of this talk is being  centered within yourself and setting personal boundaries. Living a life that is financially secure and based on values that you set yourself. Don’t chase girls!

RESOURCES

www.jimrohn.com

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Seven_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_People

www.richdad.com