The Auditory Sense and Sex

We all know that sex is not an activity that relies on and affects solely the sexual organs. According to Medical Daily, during sex, the brain is the pleasure center and dictates which acts are enjoyable and are not. Scarleteen.com, a sex education website, expounds on the idea by saying that the brain is responsible for the secretion of hormones which affects libido and feelings of craving and attachment such as serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin and dopamine.

The senses also play a big part is stimulating the human body into arousal.  In an article by Medscape, it is reported that women are aroused by a myriad of sexual stimuli originating from the senses including the auditory, olfactory and touch senses. Men, on the other hand, are stimulated more through visual cues. One of the many differences in what arouses men and women.

For the purposes of this writing, the focus will be the auditory sense and how it can put an additional kick into sex. Cosmopolitan reported that specific sounds can be highly stimulating. This can involve the sound that your bodies make during foreplay and eventually during the sexual intercourse. Certain music also plays a big role in arousing your senses. Finally, the human voice can be an erotic stimulus in certain tones which are usually close to our normal way of speaking just used for sexually stimulating talk.

The fact that the human voice alone can conjure arousal is specifically useful if the parties involved are apart. Just hearing each other’s voice can either activate memories, or ignite imagination that the other person is nearby.

History of the Phone Sex Industry

The telephone was patented in 1876 to Alexander Graham Bell in the US. The first device that enabled people to talk across distances, its invention was highly significant to governments that were undergoing wars during that time. It also helped trade and businesses until finally after some time, becoming a household staple.

Betsy Craddock, the lone telephone operator at the time of the telephone’s invention, sometimes described unfastening her hats and unbuckling her shoes – which during the time was considered erotica.

In 1920s, as reported by the website, Filthy., Woodrow Wilson had to ban phone sex. It is an industry that evolved as an effect of having the men out of the country at war and the ladies left at home longing for their beaus.

While it is quite difficult to trace the very first private individuals who used the phone for romance and sexual stimulation, one of the first people to use a “976 number” was the editor of High Society magazine. In the 1980s, Gloria Leonard recorded her own voice giving teasers on the upcoming issue of the magazine. The idea drew a marketing strategy that Gloria pursued the magazine owner to purchase more 976 numbers, which then augmented the magazine’s marketing and revenue.

It is the same concept which was later developed into the long-standing industry of phone sex. The earliest phone sex services involve a group of busy dispatchers who routes the calls to female erotic performers. The performers would come into the studio and get a “work” station, similar to an office setting. Male callers get a high out of talking dirty to anonymous women. The callers usually masturbate to the providers’ playful teasing and taunting.

As developments in technology were ushered in, performers became able to take the calls privately in their houses, apartments or dorm rooms. Dispatchers were still necessary but more for the function of answering the calls and taking payment details, they then connected the callers to the phone sex providers.

The job of performing the phone sex entails a vivid imagination, as each caller dials the numbers with specific intentions, and for some, with a special set of requests and instructions, as described on the website, MrToledano.com. The callers might specifically ask for specific scenarios and it is the phone sex operator’s duty to create an irresistible fantasy drawn through words, breathing and moans. Phone sex providers’ testimonials on MrToledano.com revealed how they are like actors, affirming to the callers’ fantasies, encouraging and teasing the imagination.

These 976 numbers, which after sometime turned into 900 numbers, charge the callers by the minute. The goal of the provider is to prolong the call as long as possible by not letting the caller climax easily and arousing them just enough to keep them on edge. The result is that they will not hang up and continue to be billed for additional minutes. According to Priceonomics, around the 80s most of the phone companies in the US operate adult chat hotlines, which continued to thrive until the 90s.

Evolution of Phone Sex

From the traditional rotary phones, followed by the push-button variation, phone sex has evolved alongside the introduction of newer technologies.

Phone sex numbers were advertised on late night cable TV broadcasts during the 90s. From the effective scheme of keeping the callers online for longer times to continually accumulate charges, the sale strategy changed into making the caller climax faster, as time is now being sold prepaid in chunks of 10, 30 and 60 minutes; with the unused minutes non-refundable nor re-usable. This illustrates that the demand for phone sex increased to the point that operators wanted to service more customers in less time.

Soon, as computers and the internet became a household staple, sex industry bigshots discovered another industry on which to capitalize. The introduction of the internet to the world bridged gaps between countries so that phone sex became an industry of multi-national scale. Websites dedicated to phone sex and porn multiplied, and marketing it is now on a global scale.

Messaging software and chatrooms that people can visit through their browser or install into their computers allowed voice calls and even live shows. This elevated the phone sex experience to a whole new level with the visual stimulation as an added option.

Further innovations gave us computers that fit our pockets. The smart phone enabled people to keep in touch, anytime and anywhere. Sex-industry high rollers cashed in on yet another medium to further expand their carnal empires, with a commodity that sells no matter which channel you tap. Messaging apps play a big role in the transformation of the usual phone sex to sexting and snapchats, among others, taking it to new heights, accessible anytime, anywhere.

Per Wikipedia, the phone sex operators discovered that while working with a company can be a fast, easy way to earn, only a percentage of the revenues goes to the operator. Phone sex operators learned to operate the business on their own, with the rise of the internet allowing basically anyone to create a website and self-promote. From voice-only calls, to video chats / web cams and live shows, all are available through credit card payment from the patron directly to the provider.

Private Phone Sex

Outside the multi-million-dollar industry, private individuals are also having phone sex. One reason for phone sex is long distance relationship. When a couple is far apart, be it temporarily or more prolonged long distance relationships, just hearing each other’s voice can trigger memories, or ignite the imagination and fantasies which can be erotic in nature.

Phone sex can also be a way for teenagers / younger couples to have intimacy despite the limitations of having to still live with their parents and minus the perils of unplanned pregnancies, STDs or STIs.

The website HistoryofPhoneSex.com provides scandalous and funny reports of phone sex in history with famous people as the participants, while also infusing some just-for-fun stories.

How to Have Phone Sex

For anyone interested in having phone sex, the exercise is simple enough for anyone with natural, carnal desires, and with one objective in mind, it might help to be prepared to ensure that phone sex will be as phenomenal an experience as the live one. To help you prepare, here is a How To guide with the assistance of Wikihow.com and Howcast.com, each of which provide cheat sheets to guarantee a memorable first phone sex experience. You’ll find yourself craving it and doing it again and again.

  • Schedule a time – Phone Sex will only work if the participants are aware of what is about to happen. It would be difficult to call someone out of the blue while the other party is busy driving or is in the middle of an office meeting. It is best to agree on a day and / or time when both will be alone and have time on their hands, rather than rushing the process. However, if you know that they are free, an impromptu phone sex session can add to the fun.
  • Practice talking dirty – If you’re usually silent save for a few moans and deep breaths during sex, talking dirty might be unfamiliar territory for you. Talking dirty does not necessarily mean cursing like a sailor or spewing expletives. It can be done subtly, describing what you’re wearing or not wearing as descriptively as possible is one way to start. Telling the other person how and where you want to be touched and kissed is another. com gives more suggestions on how to up your dirty talk game.
  • Pre-call Protocol – This one is not a strict procedure and will be highly dependent on how you can get you and your partner’s moods aligned. It may involve lighting up a few candles, playing some smooth tunes, taking a whiff of the pillow or the shirt your partner used that you have with you, or their perfume. It may be in the form of a provocative photo or a series of messages that teases yourself and your partner into the mood.
  • Make the call – How you maneuver the call itself will be highly dependent on how open you are with the idea. It can start with harmless chat that segues to foreplay or you can go straight to the agenda. Touching yourself, masturbation, using toys, these are all optional. What is mandatory though is that, since phone sex is focused on sound and voice, participants must be responsive auditorily. Confirming what your partner is saying s/he wants do to you as something that you enjoy and further encouraging your partner by stating what else you want done will be much appreciated in this setting. With the absence of non-verbal cues and body language, such as muscles tensing and body parts responding, moans and grunts will be much more effective during phone sex.
  • Climaxing – For men, the goal of any sexual contact is orgasm. For women, that is also true but perhaps to a lesser degree. In either case, the success will be highly dependent on how adept the participants are in phone sex. During climax, more verbal cues, deep breathing and moans might involuntarily take place. The more genuine the body’s reactions are, the better it is.
  • Finishing – It will depend on the parties if they want to hang up shortly after orgasm, or would they want to stay on the line a bit more with some cuddle-talk. Some clean-up may be necessary and a certain degree of awkwardness is to be expected. Furthermore, this is true of the entire experience.

Phone Sex Resource

As a phone sex resource, listed below are websites you can check should you be interested in further exploration:

http://myphonesite.com/adult A site with a 1-877 number, My Phone Site has a roster of girls to choose from depending on your preference, be it body type, race, age, or role play.

http://phonesexschool.com/ Phone Sex School has a catalogue of girls in school girl outfits waiting for your call. The setting of the website is a school and it encourages school-based role play with a majority of the girls looking young and could possibly be straight out of high school.

https://www.niteflirt.com/ With a listing of men, women and even trans, Niteflirt offers a selection of strangers who are willing to have phone sex at different prices, based on your preference.

http://myphonesexfetish.xxx/ A 1-800 number website featuring real people waiting to talk and engage in phone sex, My Phone Sex Fetish features a catalogue of both men and women willing to satisfy desires.

https://www.redhotdateline.com/ A website that allows people to meet strangers. The system works such that you record a greeting and leave a message to the 1-800 number, and wait for strangers interested in you to call you back.

https://arousr.com/ This videocall website features both men and women willing to meet strangers for some phone sex with video for increased interaction and stiumlation.

https://www.talktome.com/ A website that shows links to call phone sex amateurs’ contact details – be it phone, skype, facetime, etc.

http://www.secretcaller.com/ Crystal Midnight is a multi-talented communication specialist who performs phone sex. She has a 1-888 number that you can call to go straight to her.