BIG SECRET: GIVE VALUE TO OTHERS AT EVERY OPPORTUNITY
Rather than trying to create win-lose transactions with people in your life seek to only create WIN WINS.
You will notice when talking to some people (sadly often poor or drug reduced people) that they only seek to gain from you. Beggars asking for change never give anything back in return for the money you give them. This law of life if true for great businesses and great for relationships with women.
How to Attract A Girl
Rather than being that guy in the bar that does not give value in the form of energy, humor or even calmness of presence… give VALUE to everyone and anyone you can.
The number one secret on how to attract a girl is this: rather than seeking to “pick up” seek to inspire, laugh and inform. Adopt this mindset and work on your quality and quantity of value offering in life. It’s easy to be selfish and take value from those that give it so readily but those around you will soon realize what you’re up to and your friends’ list will dwindle fast.
Nobody wants to be surrounded by value black holes – it’s a cold lonely place, lacking humor and life energy.
Great companies give much more value to their customers than they get in return and happy customers spread the world over making the company massively successful.
In the video below the summary at the end suggests that the best thing you can learn in life is to give without expecting anything in return and somehow it always comes back. It’s a scary thought for the overly selfish… what if I try really hard and give everything I have away… won’t I become poor? You have to trust in the process and btw it does not have to be money that you are giving. In this case, I believe he is talking about interactions with friends or people you meet on the street. In no time, you’ll be answering your question on how to attract a girl.
Giving value in a conversation means making the other person feel more comfortable and happier as a result of you being in their life. A win-lose conversation would leave them feeling hurt, bored, empty etc. If all you do I talk about yourself without offering any humor you are acting selfishly and wasting their time so you can feel good about yourself. Ask them about their life and throw light-hearted jokes in.
Remember when people are out in bars and clubs they are TRYING TO RELAX AND HAVE FUN… it’s been a long week and all they want to do is joke and laugh to enjoy and life and release built up stress.
Why would anyone want to interact with an awkward dude that is not funny or interesting? You have to bring the value or it’s just not going to happen for you – the bright side is that there are many ways to bring value to a conversation. If you are a great listener that is often enough for someone to feel valued.
Watch Steve Zaragoza in the middle of this #tabletalk constantly make people laugh. At every single chance, he gets he tries to make people laugh – it’s his value win-win proposition and he does it very well. Everyone in his life enjoys his presence for the most part because he makes them laugh.