There are breakups happening all over the world as we speak: They can be emotional sinks for months if you do not get on top of them. Some people deal with breakups well … others not so well.
It all depends on how you choose to respond to a tough situation. Some use self pity and negative emotions to struggle through. Others fall on friends for support and a chat. Others bottle it up, put on a brave face and continue on with life.
You have 2 paths from here:
A future with your ex?
You may feel like you still want to get your ex back after a breakup. You might feel like you have some unfinished business to attend to. Was the relationship really going anywhere or is it just wishful thinking?
If you honestly think that the relationship can work once you get things sorted out then try reconciling with your ex and go over the past relationship issues that broke it apart. (e.g m3 system, magic of making up)
Moving on after a breakup:
If you have decided that your life will be much better without your ex and you are finally ready to live your life the way you wanted then you have exiting times ahead. Your life can be full of independent adventures and new experiences. But there will likely be some issues to overcome first…
It takes to time to get over an ex, especially if they dumped you and left without explanation of why. You are left feeling alone and helpless because they are no longer there to support you.
The classic approach to getting over your ex is to simply leave it alone and not talk to them for some time. If they are at work or in your social circle you might want to find another place to hang out for awhile.
The “no contact approach” is plastered over the internet thanks to the magic of making up and it seems to work for a lot of singles that have recently broken up.
By keeping your distance you allow yourself to heal emotionally and mature from the experience.
Keep forward focused: it’s easy to reminisce about the joys of your old relationship but keeping your mind in the past makes it hard to make progress into the future.
The support of friends and family is an obvious place to lean your head. You need to be heard and your family members are great for just listening. They will let you know that it will get better no matter how hard it is now.
Staying busy is a great way to keep your mind off your ex during the break up period. During a breakup you will want to keep your distance and exercising and working on hobbies will keep your mind from straying back to your ex and wanting to run back to them.
You can choose to be rejuvenate and empowered by your new found freedom or you can wallow in self pity and resentment.
You have the choice to pull your mind away from what hurts. When you find yourself sitting about the house and getting nothing done, call up your friend and go for a walk. They will give you a fresh approach to life, you need a new angle when your mind wanders back to thoughts of sadness and what could have been.