Dating By Personality Type: Introduction

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Understanding your personality type can help you understand yourself and who you are compatible with. If you would like to know more about your personality type, who you are compatible with, and how to date based on your personality, keep reading to find out.

What You’ll Learn

This is the first in a series of five articles. You’ll find important information for each personality, including:

  • Personality overview
  • Top traits
  • Pop culture personalities

You’ll discover how the type acts in relationships as well. This includes:

  • Description of relationship traits
  • Best match
  • Best dating site
  • Best first date
  • Biggest turn on
  • Type of relationship they are suited to

There are 16 personalities in the Myers-Brigg framework. These personalities are grouped into four different groups of four personalities each. You can find out all about your specific personality here.


The Myers-Briggs test is considered the gold standard for determining personality type. It’s been translated into 30 languages and its taken by 2 million people each year. If you don’t know your Myers-Brigg personality type, you can take the 93 question test.

Discovering Your Type

You can take the official Myers-Brigg personality test here for $49.95. If like me, you don’t want to drop $50 to find out more about yourself, I recommend the free 16 Personalities test. You can take the 16 Personalities test here.

There is a similar test from Truity, which costs $29.99. There’s also a free version of the same test that is used for research purposes. You can find other quizzes there for free, including what personality is your love match.

Personality Perfect offers a free Myers-Brigg test as well. You can take it here. All of these tests take about 15 minutes to complete.

You can also find someone certified to give the Myers-Brigg personality test. These individuals have professional qualifications and generally work as psychologists, teachers, or therapists. They can ensure accuracy, and help you understand your results.

You can find another in-depth personality test here at Understand Myself. It costs $9.99. It gives lots of insight into your personality. However, these results will not be presented in the Myers-Brigg framework, so they won’t be relevant to this article.

Which is the Best?

The original Myers-Brigg test is considered the gold standard for accuracy. However, I tried all of the free tests to see how accurate they are.

16 Personalities wins the day for the most accurate free personality test. Personality Perfect gave me the same results, but 16 Personalities broke each letter down into a percentage. The results were the most detailed and easy to understand.

The Truity test gave me my results by describing each letter that applied to me, leaving me to put it together to get my type. It said I scored on the borderline in two categories, giving me a total of four possible types.

The Basics

The personality test results are based on four categories. These are favorite world, information, decisions, and structure. Each personality type has four letters which represent these categories.

Favorite World:

  • (I) Introvert: Introverts prefer to focus on their inner world
  • (E) Extrovert: Extroverts focus more on the outside world


  • (S) Sensing: Focusing on basic information presented
  • (N) Intuitive: Interprets information presented


  • (T) Thinking: Bases decisions on logic
  • (F) Feeling: Bases decisions on feelings


  • (J) Judging: Sees the world in black and white, makes decisions quickly
  • (P) Perceiving: Sees shades of gray, prefers to leave options open

Each personality type is made up of one letter per category, for a total of 16 personalities. The personality types are more than just the sum of their parts, however. In-depth descriptions of types consider how these characteristics interact to give a full picture of your personality type.

Myers-Brigg results will give you insights into several areas of your life. These include learning, career, spirituality, and relationships. It also identifies specific strengths and weaknesses for your type, and alerts you to potential blind spots.

Making the Most of Your Results

If you are already in a relationship or find someone who isn’t listed as your most compatible type, these results are still useful. Many relationship problems arise from an inability to understand the other person. Myers-Brigg can give you insights into yourself and your partner, leading to better understanding and communication.

The Four Temperament Groups

There are four temperament groups within the Myers-Briggs framework. The four personalities within the group will share certain characteristics. They are grouped by how they behave in the areas of communication and action. To put it simply, what they say, and what they do.

Communication: Concrete vs. Abstract

Concrete communicators focus on the world around them. They have an interest in facts and figures, current events, and family. All of the concrete things that make up our day to day life.

Abstract communicators are more interested in ideas. They are the dreamers and philosophers. Concrete communicators focus on the what and hows of life, an abstract communicator focus on the why’s and what ifs.

Action: Utilitarian vs. Cooperative

Utilitarians take on tasks with an ends justify the means type of attitude. Their focus is on completing their task efficiently, with little thought to whether or not they are going by the rules.

Cooperatives focus more on doing things in a way that’s socially acceptable. They would rather take the long way around and follow the rules than take a shortcut and break them. Utilitarians generally do what works, and cooperatives do what’s right.

Guardian: ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, and ESFJ

Guardians are concrete cooperatives. They focus on their physical responsibilities and taking care of things. They follow the rules without question in most instances.


Idealists are abstract cooperators. They follow society’s rules as well as their personal code of ethics. They are dreamers, focusing on their hopes and how to make the world a better place.


Artisans are concrete utilitarians. They focus on the present moment and what they can grasp with their own two hands. They will do whatever is most effective and efficient, with no concern for bending a few rules.


Rationals are abstract utilitarians. They are problem solvers. They are very pragmatic and independent. They hunger for knowledge,  and have little regard for arbitrary rules and traditions.

 Learn About Your Type

  • Dating by Personality Type: Guardian (ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ESFJ)
  • Dating by Personality Type: Artisan (ISTP, ISFP, ESTP, ESFP)
  • Dating by Personality Type: Idealists (INFJ, INFP, ENFJ, ENFP)
  • Dating by Personality Type: Rational (INTJ, INTP, ENTJ, ENTP)


  • Official Myers-Brigg personality test
  • Truity test
  • Free Truity test
  • Free 16 Personalities test
  • Free Personality Perfect test 
  • Understand Myself personality assessment test
  • Personality Match App


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