You’ve seen those women that can get any man they want, seemingly without even trying. What do they do differently? Is it just good genetics, or are there things you can do to improve your attractiveness? If you are tired of losing the men you are interested in, keep reading to find out how to attract, get, and keep the prince charming you’ve been dreaming of.
How to Get the Man of Your Dreams
There are things that you can do to become more attractive to the opposite sex, and they don’t involve Botox or implants. Up your attractiveness game with these simple tips.
Red has been shown to make women appear more attractive to men. Red clothing and red lipstick both have this effect, and the man doesn’t seem to have any awareness of what makes you look more attractive. So you can covertly appear to be more sexy by slipping into something red.
Smiling is believed to make you appear more attractive because it stimulates the man’s pleasure center. The logic is that if you are smiling, he must have done something right, so his brain rewards him. It also makes you appear more approachable. It is important to take care of your teeth, because a healthy smile is seen as more attractive than yellow or broken teeth.
Laugh With Him
You’ve heard that cliché that all guys want a girl to laugh at their jokes. Apparently, there is some truth in this case. One study conducted by a Canadian University found that men thought that women who laughed at their jokes more attractive than those who didn’t. Don’t feel like you have to laugh at everything he says, but if you find something he says amusing, a girlish giggle won’t hurt.
Perhaps it’s the narcissist deep inside him, or perhaps he just wants to feel understood. Regardless of the reason, men are more attracted to women who subtly mimic their behavior. A study conducted at a speed dating session found that women who mimicked the men were found to be more attractive. If he asks, “Do you come here often”?, you can say, “No, I don’t come here often. Do You?” When he takes a drink, you can take a drink a few seconds later. Your behavior should appear natural, and it shouldn’t look like you are trying to copy him.
It’s All In Your Hips
Hollywood and the fashion industry would have you believe that stick thin models with a 9:10 hip ratio are the most attractive. However, men actually prefer a larger ratio of 7:10. It’s thought that this is partly because men look at a woman with larger hips and subconsciously think that they would be able to have their child. Women with more fat in their hip, thigh, and buttocks also score higher on intelligence tests, as do their children. It’s believed that this is because these areas store Omega 3 fatty acids, which support brain growth and development.
A sexy hip swinging walk can also help you seem more attractive. Researchers at Texas A&M University found that women who sway when they walk are more likely to catch a man’s eye. Just put one foot in front of the other and elongate your stride a bit. See how many admirers you have next time you go to the grocery store.
Try to avoid situations that make you cry early in your relationship. First of all, you want to appear happy and fun loving when you are getting to know each other. Second, research has shown that men are less likely to be sexually attracted to a woman who smells like tears. Don’t be ashamed to cry if something sad happens in your life. If your dog gets ran over, feel free to cry on your man’s shoulders. However, save the tear-jerking chick flicks for a night out with your girlfriends.
Maintain a Healthy Weight
Most men prefer girls who are physically healthy. Women who are too skinny were found to be less attractive, as were those who were overweight. Stop staring at all those Cosmo models and wishing you could be a size zero. These standards are virtually unattainable, and it isn’t what most men want anyway.
Cultivate Your Own Sense of Style
Sporty or sexy? Jeans or dresses? Hair long or short? The answers to these questions will depend on your personal sense of style. Having a sense of style is more important than the particular style you choose in terms of attractiveness. It shows that you are decisive and you aren’t afraid to be yourself.
To be more attractive to a man, you’ll need to:
- Wear red
- Laugh with him
- Copy him
- Don’t cry
- Sway when you walk
- Maintain a healthy weight
- Cultivate a personal sense of style
Old Fashioned Attraction
Standards seem to have been on a downhill decline in recent years. Women are told that they need to be “independent”, “liberated”, and “have their guard up” at all times. It can make it nearly impossible for a man to find a woman approachable. If a man does approach a woman, there’s a good chance that she will automatically push him away. It is possible to be a modern liberated woman and still take advantage of old-fashioned methods of being attractive.
Make Eye Contact
It was once considered rude not to make eye contact with someone when you met. Now, most people avoid eye contact as if they don’t have enough confidence to look someone in the eye. Eye contact indicates confidence and interest. It’s also the quickest way to find out if you have chemistry with someone. If you make eye contact and you feel a little spark, then you have a budding attraction to the person.
Manners are also a dying art. Saying please and thank you show that you are a considerate and polite person. It shows consideration and respect for others feelings. Many girls these days are either too self-absorbed to be polite or believe that they deserve everything they are given just because they are women. Show your appreciation, and let your date know that it isn’t all about you.
A woman with good domestic skills is difficult to find these days. There’s something sexy about a woman who knows how to cook, iron, sew, or crochet. Candlemaking or even making birdhouses can fall into this category as well. The point is to have some skill that helps make your house a home. Learn how to do something that sets you apart from most women, and you are much more likely to get the man of your dreams.
This doesn’t mean that you have to be dressed to the nines every time you roll out of bed in the morning. Dressing cute can mean anything from a dress and heels to a cute p.j. set. Make sure that whatever you wear looks good on you, and that it is appropriate for the occasion. You want to look like you put some effort into your outfit, but not too much effort.
Please Him In Bed
This should go without saying, but you should focus on pleasing him in bed. Most women either go to the extreme of pretending that they are a virgin, or they go to the opposite extreme of acting like a vaginal air traffic controller. Try to strike a balance somewhere in the middle, and make sure that both of yo have a good time when you are in bed. Focusing on his enjoyment should encourage him to focus on yours, giving you a mutually beneficial experience.
Make Him Feel Like a Man
Nothing is more attractive to a man than a woman who makes him feel manly. Tell him he’s brave or strong. Tell him you love the way he fixed the leaky faucet in the kitchen. Reward him for being a man.
Women today are taught that we should never need anyone. We must be fiercely independent and able to take care of ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with being self-reliant. However, you should find opportunities to let a man feel like a man. Let him buy you a drink, or kill the spider scurrying across the bathroom floor. Sure you could do it yourself, but he will remember feeling like a man around you, and sometimes that’s more important than constantly asserting your independence.
Don’t be afraid to show interest in a man. Text or call them back in a timely manner. Let them know that you had a great time, and that you are looking forward to your next date. Don’t play games and keep them guessing whether or not you enjoy their company. Show enthusiasm about spending time with them.
Sure it’s cliche, but it’s also true. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. When you cook for your man you are signaling a few things. First, you are letting him know that you care about his needs, and that you are willing to put effort into meeting these needs. Second, it establishes your place in a domestic caretaker role. It makes you seem kind and caring.
To take advantage of old fashioned methods of attraction, you’ll need to:
- Make eye contact
- Be polite
- Have domestic skills
- Dress cute
- Please him in bed
- Make him feel like a man
- Be vulnerable
- Show interest
- Feed him
How to Become Irresistible
There are certain qualities that men cherish and search for in women. Unfortunately, these qualities are hard to find these days. The truth is that while men are known for placing an emphasis on looks, most of the qualities that men find irresistible are intangible.
Stop Being Overly Sensitive
It may seem easier said than done, but stopping to think before you react to issues can be incredibly beneficial to your relationship. Women are emotional creatures, and we tend to respond to things with an emotional response that isn’t logically proportional to what occurred. Maybe the guy that you just started dating forgot your birthday. Perhaps he promised he would call, but he got held up at work. It’s easy to feel hurt and start wondering if he even cares. However, if you take a minute to look at it from a more logical point of view, your reaction will likely be much different. The fact is that men don’t know how to deal with women’s complicated emotions, especially if they can’t understand it from a logical point of view. Men crave a woman who is lighthearted and relaxed, especially when things are tough.
Have you ever wondered why men leave their middle aged wives for twenty year old girls? Do you think it’s because gravity hasn’t taken the same toll on their bodies as it has their wives? The truth is that this trend has little to do with physical attractiveness or even physical youthfulness. It’s the youthful attitude that makes these young women so attractive. They aren’t jaded and hardened by life. They have a joy for living, and they know how to enjoy life’s simple pleasures. Men seek childlike energy and innocence. Have you ever seen an older couple holding hands lost in each other’s company and thought that they looked like teenagers? Maintaining that childlike energy is what has allowed them to stay together through life’s trials
93% of communication is nonverbal, with 53% of it being body language. This means that the majority of your communication with a man is based on what your body says, instead of your words or voice. There are moves that you can learn to do. However, the fact of the matter is that you already know how to turn up the sexy with your body language. Somewhere deep inside is a sexy woman that’s dying to get out. This woman knows instinctively when to sway her hips, and when to do a hair flip. Letting it flow naturally means that you are being true to yourself and your moves won’t seem forced. If you aren’t convinced that “faking it till you make it” will work for you, check out this study.
If you aren’t convinced that “faking it till you make it” will work for you, check out this study. People with long standing depression were given Botox injections in their frown lines. This made it impossible for them to look sad. Traditional depression treatments had failed them, and they certainly weren’t concerned about a few wrinkles. Still, the group that received the injections experienced a nearly 50% increase in their mood over the next six weeks while the placebo group experienced a 9% increase in mood. This study seems to suggest that the approach of “faking it till you make it” can be very effective, at least where body language is concerned.
There are a few basic’s of body language to keep in mind. First, keep yourself open. Crossing your arms signals that you are closed off and not interested in being approached. Leave your chest and torso open, with your chest slightly out, your back straight, and your shoulders back. You aren’t on a catwalk or the military, so this pose shouldn’t be stiff. You should appear confident, natural, and approachable. When you talk to a man you are interested in, lean towards them a bit. This lets them know you are interested. You can also give a light touch to their arm or hand. Exposing your neck by flipping your hair is seen as a universal “I’m interested” signal. Incorporate a few of these moves the next time that you talk to a guy, and you’ll find that you are communicating on a whole different level.
Don’t Worry, Be Happy
Smiling is an easy way to appear more attractive. However, to become irresistible, you’ll need an all around positive attitude. Men like a woman that they can please. If you are unhappy, then your man will feel like he isn’t pleasing you, regardless of whether he has anything to do with your unhappiness. When a man sees a woman smile, particularly when he considers her to be “his woman” his brain gives him feel good hormones that say he’s done a good job. Giving a man who you are interested in a happy smile shows him that you aren’t too hard to please, and it lets him see that you are enjoyable to be around. A healthy smile also indicates that you take care of yourself, and white straight teeth indicate healthy genetics.
To become irresistible, the things you should keep in mind are:
- Don’t be too sensitive
- Be youthful
- Mind your body language
How to Get Out of the Friend Zone
It’s stereotypically the guy who finds himself in the friend zone, but let’s face it, it happens to women too. If you’ve found yourself in the friend zone with a guy that you really like, there are ways you may be able to get out of it. However, before you figure out how to get out of the friend zone, you need to consider why you’ve found yourself there in the first place.
Be Ok With Being Friends
If you want to get out of the friend zone, you’ll have to be ok with being in the friend zone. You can’t force someone to have feelings for you, and putting pressure on them will only push them away. You can’t just play the part, because he will know if you are faking it. You have to learn to accept the possibility that you may never be anything other than friends.
Get a Makeover
Ever notice how guys completely drool over a new girl? Being the friend means that he’s used to seeing you around, and it’s easy to take you for granted. Giving yourself a makeover is one way to get his attention, and it will help him see you with new eyes. Change your hair, buy some new clothes, change up your makeup. Consider beginning that work out program that you’ve been meaning to do. Change your look in a way that makes you feel good about yourself.
Find Your Confidence
Contrary to popular belief, most guys aren’t attracted to bitchy girls. What they are attracted to is girls who are confident, happy with who they are, and have a life of their own. If you don’t have a hobby or a social life, now is the time to get one. If you are lacking self confidence find something you enjoy that makes you feel good about yourself. Once you begin to enjoy your life and carry yourself with confidence, the next step becomes easy.
Meet Other Guys
We aren’t talking high school flaunt it in his face to make him jealous here. We are talking about genuinely deciding that you don’t want to spend forever waiting for your friend to change his mind. That just maybe there’s a guy out there for you that isn’t your friend. One of two things will happen. Either your guy friend will step up and make you his, because he’s afraid he’ll lose you to someone else, or you will find someone else that is right for you. Either way, you win.
Seal the Deal
Once all of this is in place, you want to give your friend the opportunity to see you as more than a friend, without coming on too strong. Throw a little flirty innuendo into the conversation and gauge his reaction. Act like you are going for a touch or a kiss and then turn it into something innocent. Look into his eyes just long enough for him to wonder if it is desire he sees in them. If he still doesn’t seem interested, then he just isn’t the guy for you. The good news is that you still benefit from all of the work you’ve done, and there is sure to be someone out there who appreciates it.
Hugging a guy can signal several different things, so it’s important to give your guy the right type of hug. Are you hugging a guy friend because he had a hard day, or are you trying to show your man just how much you love him? Actions really do speak louder than words, and the way you hug speaks volumes.
You want to let your guy know what is about to happen. Make eye contact and open your arms. This gives him a moment to realize that you are going to give him a hug. This lets him prepare, and it also allows time for some tension to build.
How to Hug a Guy Friend
If you want to hug a guy friend, you should give him a small hug. One arm hugs without full body contact are usually the safest. Hold the hug for a few seconds and then let go. This will signal that this hug is meant to comfort a friend, instead of feeling romantic.
If you want to show your boyfriend how much you care, move into the hug slowly and wrap your arms around your neck. Allow your chest to touch his. Hold the hug for a few moments. Gauge the moment, and let go when it feels right. If you feel any tension, fidgeting, or your partner breaks eye contact, then it’s time to break off the hug. We’ve all had a hug that lasted too long, whether it was from a partner or a family member. It’s awkward, and it’s a great way to kill any romantic feelings that were blooming, so don’t linger too long.
When you are trying to get out of the friend zone with a guy, you should:
- Be ok with being friends
- Find your confidence
- Get a makeover
- Meet other guys
- Seal the deal
- Give him romantic hugs
The Stages Men Experience When Falling In Love
So you’ve found the perfect guy. Maybe you’ve been on a few dates, and you are wondering how to make him fall in love with you. Before you learn how to make a man fall in love with you, you’ll need to understand the stages a man goes through when falling in love.
This is the stage when the man says, “Wow! She’s hot.” This is the stage where the man is initially attracted to you, and it’s based on your appearance. It isn’t necessarily about being model hot, however. He could be attracted to a specific feature, like your legs or eyes. He could be attracted to the way you dress, the way you do your hair, or the way you walk. Just know that he sees something that he likes.
This is the stage when the man considers pursuing you in some way. If he doesn’t get a green light, he’ll forget about you and move on to the next girl that he finds attractive.
This is the stage when the guy really sets his sights on you. He’s found you attractive, you’ve given some indication of your interest, and he’s decided that he wants you.
This is the stage when he is trying to impress you. He wants you to like him, and he may go out of his way to make it happen. This isn’t a love stage, but it is an “I like this girl and want her to like me” stage.
This is basically an extension of the impressing stage, but the feeling is stronger now. He really wants you to like him. If he believes that you like him, he’ll go on to the next stage.
He’s fairly sure that you are in love with him, or at least care for him a lot. Now that you are emotionally attached, he’s going to step back and consider whether or not he wants a serious relationship with you. Yes, it’s selfish. It’s also reality. You fall for him, and then he sits back and decides if he wants to fall for you. Pressuring him at this stage can actually ruin your chances of a relationship. Just give him time to evaluate the relationship. He’ll see you are a great catch, and move into the next phase.
He’s made you fall in love with him, he’s weighed the pros and cons, and he’s decided he wants to pursue a relationship with you. If he decides not to fall in love with you, he’ll likely just start blowing you off or being hot and cold. While it may seem like guys are just being jerks, they aren’t doing it intentionally. They aren’t really aware that they are going through these stages, it’s just how they are wired. There are some things that you can do to put the odds in favor of him deciding to fall for you, however.
When a guy starts to fall in love, the stages he experiences are:
Making Him Fall in Love With You
You really like him, and you are hoping he falls in love with you. In addition to the tips listed earlier, here’s what you need to do to make it happen.
Guys love it when a woman acts a little bit coy. Give him a compliment and blush a bit. Bite your lip. Give him a warm smile. Tuck your hair behind your ear. Laugh at his jokes. Acting a bit shy and feminine will make him feel like more of a man. You should also be polite. Say please and thank you.
You don’t have to play dumb to get a guy to like you. When a man is looking for a woman to get involved with long term, he wants someone who is his intellectual equal. Don’t be afraid to let your intelligence show. Just don’t act arrogant about it or make him feel that you are smarter than him.
Make eye contact often. Use it to communicate what you are feeling. This is a great way to connect with your man on a deeper level. It can make him feel warm and fuzzy inside, which will certainly put him on the road to love.
Touch Him Like a Lady
Soft but intimate touches are a way to communicate your affection and interest. Touching his arm, face, or chest can give him butterflies. You can also touch his hand. Don’t initiate hand holding, but be receptive to it if he offers it. Keep your touches light and sweet. This gives him room to pursue you with touches of his own. You can also “accidentally” brush against him. This gets his imagination going overtime, and you can play innocent!
Have a Life
He won’t fall for you if you aren’t spending time together, but at the same time, you shouldn’t be too available. Having a life apart from him is the best way to ensure that you are available without being too available. It’s also best not to accept many dates at the last minute. Occasionally indicates spontaneity. Often indicates that you really don’t have anything else to do, and this won’t be attractive to him.
Show him the things you are good at. A man wants a woman who embraces her talents. You being good at (fill in with your talent), gives him something to brag to his guy friends about when he’s telling them how great you are.
Play Hard to Get, But Not too Hard
Be sure that he is the first one to say “I love you”. He should know that you like him, but don’t let him know you are in love with him until he says he is in love with you. The harder he works to get you, the more he will value what you have together. However, if he has to chase you too much, he may end up giving up on getting you.
To recap how to get a man to fall in love with you, you should:
- Be coy
- Be intelligent
- Make eye contact
- Touch him like a lady
- Have a life
- Show off
- Play hard to get
Follow these tips and you are sure to get the man of your dreams, and get him to fall in love with you.