(Tits and Tails, n.d.)
So every man who has ever lived probably asked this question: how to get a girl?
Okay, so here’s what we know about women..
Women are absolutely, definitely, without a doubt wired differently to men.
How we know this? Women don’t go out looking for men to sleep with at night. (If there are girls that do that, where the hell are they?!)
What else do we know?
(Real Scientific Study Concludes Women Who Like Sex Have Sex Because They Like Sex | HuffPost, 2014)
Women like sex, too. In fact, studies have shown that it is even more pleasurable for them than it is for us. Go figure.
So that begs the question…
If they enjoy it so much, why do they keep saying no?
How do we get around their nonsensical rejection?
The very first thing that you need to know is something that you have probably been doing wrong your entire life.
Since you hit puberty and starting thinking boobs were cool. Since your first few failed attempts at getting laid.
That’s not to say you never got lucky – even a broken clock is right twice a day.
But I’m guessing that if you’re reading this, you’re not looking for a hit ratio of 1 in a 100, or even 1 in 10.
9 out of 10, fuck it, 10 out of 10 is what you’re after.
You want to be able to fuck any girl you want. Furthermore, you want her to come to you.
You wanna be able to hit the club or the bar, scope the place out, and go: that one. Yup, that’s the one. Sounds impossible?
You just don’t know how.
So what am you doing wrong?
How to get a girl?
The first and biggest mistake that you have been making, probably for your entire life, is thinking that women think like men. You think that you know this already, but… you probably don’t.
Consider the following scenario.
You’re at a bar, chilling with the boys. Laughing and having a good time, you lift your beer to your lips, and stop mid-air. You’ve seen her, probably the hottest woman in the bar.
You take a sip and act casual, slowly looking around you.
You’re not the only one that’s seen her – she’s caught the attention of practically every guy in the bar.
You act like you’re still listening to your table’s conversation, but you have no idea what they’re saying. You’re trying to figure out exactly what you’re going to say to this girl.
Before you can act, another guy has beat you to it. He’s taller than you. Better dressed, and probably better looking.
You tell yourself that you would never have had a chance anyway, and concede defeat. “If anyone has a shot, it’s Mr Sexy-and-he-knows-it,” you think bitterly.
But to your surprise, she shoots him down! You don’t know whether to laugh or cry for the bloke.
Deep down, you’re just glad it wasn’t you that got bat in front of all your friends.
One of the guys sees you looking at her, and says: “Ah forget about her, mate. She looks like a real bitch anyway. Did you see what she just did to that guy?”
You take solace in what your friend says, and at the end of the night, you go home. Alone. Again.
Cursing women for being such bitches and for making your life so difficult.
Why can’t they just be like men?
The bottom line is: they’re not. They’re not men. They don’t think like men, they don’t act like men, and they don’t want to be treated like men.
Understanding Women: How To Get A Girl
Today you’re going to engage in a radical experiment, an exercise that few men have ever completed.
You will be taken on an exclusive guided tour, right into the female mind.
Past chick flicks, girls’ nights and makeup. Past the senseless, illogical minefield that makes up the centre of their thoughts, and right into the depths of the female psyche.
This is not one of those articles written by women to tell men some crap about how they wanted to be treated like princesses.
This is something based on the psychology of the female mind, how it works right at the core, how you can use it to your advantage and how to get a girl.
You will be able to understand how her mind works better than she does herself.
It’s better than a spare key. It’s the full red carpet and Hollywood welcome.
We’re going to start at the deepest depths of her mind and work our way outwards.
We’re going to discover why she likes what she likes and wants what she wants.
We’re going to take you through what happens behind the scenes, when she says yes and when she says no.
Not only will you know what her next move will be before she does, but you will be a few steps ahead, already having your answer and a killer line to shut down any objection she may throw at you.
The next five things that you are about to learn will unlock the entire world of women to you so you won’t have to wonder about ‘how to get a girl’.
You may want to write them down on a piece of paper in your wallet, and refer to them from time to time.
Now you, too, will have the power to walk out with any many women as you want, regardless of what you look like, what you’re wearing or how much money you have.
You will literally be able to control their minds.
Women don’t want to come across as easy.
First things first, if you’re asking ‘how to get a girl’, you have to know that women don’t want to come across as easy.
There is a huge social stigma about women that are sluts. They are considered dirty, cheap and low-class.
Women care about their appearance and their reputation more than you can possibly imagine, and in many instances, this is a key factor that is holding them back –
whether they realize it or not!
What this means to you?
No matter how badly she wants to have sex with you, she will probably say no.
Not just once. Not even twice. But a few times, enough so that you (and everyone around) will know that she is worth chasing and not going to give it up easily.
The second part to this point is that women are not turned on right from the beginning. Men’s attraction has been linked to a visual part of the brain, meaning that seeing a gorgeous woman is enough to get you aroused.
Women are wired very differently. Before they can start feeling attracted to you, you need to turn them on.
Girls are not walking around already open to the idea of meeting a man and going home with him. That idea is a seed that you need to plant in her mind.
How do you turn her on?
Before she can be attracted to you, she needs to be attracted to the idea of you.
Your way of speaking, your body language; your physical touch needs to be attractive to her.
It all starts right in the greeting.
Begin by introducing yourself, and take her hand as you do so. No need to kiss her hand or do anything ridiculous, just hold her one hand in both of yours.
Maintain this hold while introducing yourself.
Something like this:
Hi. [Look her right in the eye, and take her hand]
My name is Steven. [Hold her hand in both of yours, smile and let go after you have introduced yourself.]
I saw you from over there and couldn’t help but come say hi. You’re absolutely stunning. [Smile confidently while maintaining eye contact]
How are you doing tonight?
For the duration of the conversation, ensure that you keep as much eye contact as possible. Don’t look away when she is talking, and especially don’t look at any other girls.
You want her to feel that you, the strong, masculine man from over there, came all the way over here just to talk to her.
Once you have made the first move and shown that you find her attractive, the first barrier is lifted in her mind.
This is the barrier of, “but what if he doesn’t like me?” and believe me, this is far more prevalent than you would think.
No matter how attractive a woman is, you can count on her having an insecurity about something, because that is simply the way that women are.
Once you have made her feel comfortable in your presence, she will subconsciously start to relax.
The more comfortable she feels around you, the more “girly” she feels around you, will allow her to become attracted to you.
Quite simply, allow her to feel like a woman around you, not just “one of the guys.”
Well done. With this box checked, you have completed step one on how to get a girl.
Women will test you.
Testing men is built into their minds so deeply on an evolutionary scale, that it forms the basis of any first encounter or first few encounters that you may have with her.
This is not unusual. At the end of the day, we are animals, too.
And somewhere along the line, men drew the short straw when women were put in charge of selecting their mates.
All throughout nature, the male species has to beg and plead, put on a show for her, and demonstrate his dominance and masculinity.
Yea, it sucks. It’s definitely an inconvenience.
But her brain is just a collection of chemicals, neurons, connections and pathways.
With something as simple as basic science, you can override millions of years of genetic evolution with a few words, actions and the right touch.
We’re not trying to let a cheat code slip into the wrong hands and be used for the wrong purposes.
We’re just trying to let the average guy, people like you and me, have a shot at all the beautiful women that people like to point out as being “out of our league.”
So what do you say to her when she acts uninterested, or makes small comments that poke fun at you?
(Where to meet women you actually want to date, n.d.)
Laugh. You’ve got to laugh.
Show her that she doesn’t faze you. You’re a man and you’re not scared of her.
Show her that there is nothing she can say that can make you feel any less of a man, and any attempts that she may make are “cute.”
Brush off any comments she may make about being tired and thinking about leaving. Offer to get her another drink and ask her how often she gets to go out and enjoy herself.
She will probably tell you that she’s not interested; not looking for anything serious.
Here’s the thing: for the right guy, women are ALWAYS interested. She just wants to make sure that you are confident enough to pursue her anyway, want her badly enough to fight for her.
She wants to be sure that you are strong enough a man to allow her to be the woman.
Once you’ve gotten past steps one and two, sex is definitely on the table.
Whether she says so or not.
In fact, the more she tells you it’s not going to happen, the more likely it is to happen.
What to say when she says she’s not interested
You’ve just got to start building up some powerful sexual tension. If you have been through step one and two correctly, she should be feeling relaxed and attracted to you.
She should be interested in find out more about you, and enjoying her evening so much that she doesn’t want to tear herself away from you.
REMEMBER: Women will test you! Whether she knows she’s doing it or not, she is going to make damn sure that you are worthy of her attention before giving it to you.
Keep this in the back of your mind, and don’t give up.
Don’t allow her to instinctive tricks to throw you.
Chances are, she’s not even doing it on purpose. It’s simply built into the female mind, and in knowing so, you already have the upper hand.
It’s the persistent man that catches the fish, not the first one at the lake.
(Love Panky, n.d.)
You’ve got to step it up with some well-placed physical touch.
If you’re in a club, invite her to dance.
If it’s not a dance scene or you feel like you’re just not there yet, look into her eyes and she’s talking, and place your hand on her arm or shoulder.
If she doesn’t object, leave it there and smile genuinely while you and her talk.
Rub her arm or back slowly and meaningfully while talking, so that she gets tingles down her spine at your touch.
Then remove your arm, and continue talking and laughing with her.
Wait for her to touch you in some way, indicating that she (even if only on a subconscious level) is interested, too.
While the sexual tension builds between you, she will start to enjoy your touch more and more.
She will start to wonder what it will feel like to be with you, and fantasize about it while listening to you speak.
Before she even knows it, the attraction will be so strong that she will feel like she just has to sleep with you in order to release the build-up of desire that she is feeling.
There will simply be no other way around it.
Be the man, at all times. No matter what she says or does.
(Which DC Superhero Are You? | PlayBuzz, 2015)
Women are drawn to strong, self-confident men. It’s basic evolution.
This does not mean that you need to be a good-looking, tall guy with every imaginable muscle toned and sticking out!
It simply means that no matter what she says or does, you need to maintain your masculinity.
Don’t tell her you live in your mom’s basement and live off her paycheck.
Don’t tell her you are in between jobs as you’ve just been retrenched.
Don’t tell her your last girlfriend dumped you because you were too needy.
If you must speak of these things, ensure that you phrase them as follows:
“My mother is getting on in years, and I worry about her being alone. You never know what can happen these days, so I like to keep an eye on her and let her know that I’m around if she needs me.”
“In my last company, some of the ways that they were doing business didn’t strike me as fair, and I found myself struggling to be a part of the company. It’s difficult to work with people whose values are not aligned with yours. Don’t get me wrong, I wish them all the best. It just wasn’t for me.”
“I believe that we learn something from every relationship we have in our lives. My last girlfriend and I decided to part ways as it became clear that we were heading in different directions. I need a partner who understands that I’m the kind of person who stands up for the little guy. She just never seemed to get that.”
You’re a big tough guy, but you have a soft spot for children, animals, and her.
Women crave the stereotypical hero with a weak spot for the vulnerable (animals, children, the elderly and the underdog).
Be sure to have a photo or two of you and your dog (or a friend’s dog or the neighbor’s cat or any cute animal).
(Giant Men Meet Tiny Puppies | YouTube, 2014)
There is nothing more attractive than a tough guy with a big heart that he only shares with a select few.
Why does she like it so much?
It allows her to see your soft side, without losing your masculinity.
It shows her that she is important to you and will be treated delicately and thoughtfully.
It provides a massive contrast between the man who will protect her from harm yet gently caress her and stroke her hair.
In short, it drives her crazy! She will be willing to do almost anything for you.
Why? Because that is the way the female mind works. That is what evolution has taught the female species to look for in a suitable partner. That is the advice that her mother gave her, and her mother before her.
It really isn’t very difficult. You’ve just got to understand how her mind works, and understand it better than she does herself.
Almost like a “babe whisperer”, so to speak.
(The Sky Has Fallen: Hot Girl of Horror #22: Minka Kelly, 2013)
What to do when you don’t know what to say:
Look at her and smile gently.
When she asks “what?” tell her that you just can’t keep your eyes off her.
She should laugh or smile, but even if she doesn’t… once she has reacted, change the topic by asking her a meaningful question.
- What was your favorite place to go to when you were a child?
- Where have you always dreamed of going?
- If you only had $50, what would you spend it on?
Try to stay away from cliché things like her favorite movie or song or color (blah blah blah). It’s been done to death, and honestly, it’s not as fun a topic as you would expect.
What to say when she tells you that she’s not looking for anything / just came out of a bad breakup and is not interested / doesn’t hook up with guys she meets at ______:
- That’s okay. I’m not looking for anything either.
[You’ve got to smile warmly and look into her eyes as you say this. She’ll start to wonder what it would be like with you.]
- I tend to avoid meeting women here too. But then again, you … I just had to come say hi.
- Yea? It’s all good. [Smile] I really just came over here to talk to you. I think I’d have kicked myself if I didn’t.
Keep in mind: It’s not what you say, but how you say it that will keep her wanting more.
The most important thing to remember is not to walk away. Most women use this line expecting the man to leave at this point, and you’ve absolutely got to stay.
Show her that she’s worth your time and you’re interested in talking to her.
She will find this refreshing, and be more intrigued by you.
Don’t stop flirting with her. Don’t change your tone, and make sure you’re still making her feel sexy as ever.
Allow her comment of not being interested to flow by like nothing at all. Acknowledge and relate to it, and then move on like it never happened!
You’re the man. You’re in control.
FINAL WORDS OF ADVICE
If you disregard all that has been said previously. That’s fine, what I would ask you to question is your “blue pill thinking”. Go to youtube right now and search “mgtow”. Understand female psychology. Mgtow does not mean you won’t have sex again it means you’re going your own way, doing your own thing and have a good understanding of female motivation.
And that my friends, is how to get a girl.
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