Do you crave longer lasting sex with more pleasure? Would you like to experience more passion and intimacy? Do you long for incredibly intense multiple orgasms? You can achieve these things with Tantric sex, tonight!
You may have experienced Tantric Sex in the past and not even realized it. Have you ever had a sexual experience that felt… more? Have you ever felt like you moved beyond the strictly physical and truly connected with your partner? Have you ever had an orgasm that left you feeling wonderful for hours afterward? If you’ve experienced any of these, you’ve experienced some aspect of Tantric sex. You can have these experiences and more over and over again.
You don’t have to start worshiping the Lord and Lady, change to Hinduism, or take a vow of celibacy for months to get the incredible experience of Tantric sex. There are many people who hold workshops, classes, and even therapists that can teach you about Tantric sex. However, most people prefer simple techniques that they can apply to their everyday life. If you want to know how to start having Tantric sex tonight, you’ve come to the right place.
Tantra was developed in India during the 7th century. You’ll find different forms of Tantra practiced by Hindus and Buddhists. In Western culture, we tend to view sex as completely separate, or even antithetical to religion and spirituality. The word Tantra actually means “to weave”, and the goal of Tantra is to weave everything, including sex, into a spiritual experience.
Tantric sex is similar to yoga in many ways. One of these ways is how it went from an Eastern spiritual tradition to a Western tradition for improving your sex life. When you think of yoga, you most likely think of women in yoga class. However, yoga was originally practiced by Yogis. Yogis devoted their entire life to spiritual practice, and the form of yoga that they practiced was about much more than exercise. Still, the yoga practiced in the Western world today has a wide range of health benefits. Tantra can be similarly adapted to fit into any lifestyle or belief system, and there are immense benefits to this practice.
You may be aware of some of the benefits of having sex for your health as well as your relationship. However, these benefits, as well as the pleasure you experience, are magnified with Tantric sex.
Greater Connection and Intimacy
You can find lots of testimonials where couples claim that Tantric sex saved their marriage from divorce. Hopefully, your relationship isn’t at this dire point, but if it can reconnect couples on the verge of giving up, imagine what it could do for your relationship. When you engage in Tantric sex, you experience a different level of intimacy with your partner. Tantric sex involves focusing on your feelings for your partner, and communicating your thoughts and feelings. This intimacy doesn’t stop in the bedroom, either. You’ll find it positively affecting your relationship with your partner all the time.
Empowerment and Healing
We’ve all been hurt before. Many of us have been sexually abused. You may have been taught as a child that sex was something to be ashamed of, or you may not be comfortable with how your body looks. These are all wounds that Tantric sex can help you heal. It is also very empowering. It allows you to let go of the doubts, fears, and insecurities that are holding you back.
Emotional, Mental, and Physical Health
Our society is determined not to feel. We are supposed to think, not feel. Our bodies are seen as a tool, as a means to an end, instead of a source of knowledge or pleasure. We dull our senses with our busy lives, tv, and drugs like alcohol. The only thing we truly feel seems to be pain. When this happens, we run to the doctor for pain medications, anti-depressants, and anti-anxiety medications. How often do we truly stop and listen to what our body is trying to tell us? How often do we take time out to do things that truly give us pleasure? Tantric sex is about feeling with our senses as well as our heart.
Sex is proven to:
- Boost immunity
- Boost libido
- Lower blood pressure
- Lower your risk of heart attack
- Relieve pain
- Relieve depression
- Reduce stress
- Improve sleep
Tantric sex is much more pleasurable than regular sex, so it stands to reason that these benefits are even more pronounced when you have Tantric sex as opposed to regular sex. Orgasms that last for twenty minutes or more have been shown to completely eliminate depression. I know what you are thinking, and yes, it is possible!
We are spiritual beings having a physical experience. We all have spiritual needs, however, these are often the needs that are most neglected. There’s a story that has always resonated with me.
A man goes to his pastor. He tells them his marriage is falling apart. He says he’s tried counseling, giving her gifts, and even went on a second honeymoon. Nothing had worked to improve their marriage. The pastor asked him, “Have you talked to God about it”? The man replied, “Oh no. Has it come to that!” Often this is how we view our spirituality.
As a last resort for emergency situations. Spiritual people are shown to be happier, to have more meaningful relationships, and to be better at self-actualization. Spirituality is often confused with religion. Spirituality is about experiencing a one on one relationship with your higher power, while religion is about following the specific tenents of the religion.
Spirituality can be experienced in many different ways, and Tantric sex is one way to experience it.
Tantric sex teaches you to focus on the moment, instead of racing to the goal of having an orgasm. It can greatly prolong lovemaking, and it can teach you to delay your orgasm or ejaculation until you are ready.
It can allow you to experience a much stronger orgasm with your entire body, instead of just your genitals. It can also give you a much greater satisfaction than traditional sex. It not only meets your physical needs, but your needs for love and intimacy as well.
Tantric Sex Benefits For Men
In addition to the above benefits, men and women can experience other benefits as well. Tantric sex can help men with:
- Erectile dysfunction
- Lack of passion during sex
- Self confidence
- Sexual health
- Satisfying his partner
- Premature ejaculation
- Controlling ejaculation
Tantric Sex Benefits For Women
While men are concerned with physical or functional issues, the issues women experience are often more mental or emotional. Tantric sex can help women with:
- Loss of sensation
- Loss of interest
- Weak or nonexistent orgasms
- Pain during sex
- Sexual shame
- Need to be in control
The Three Types of Sex
There are three different types of sex. You are likely familiar with two of them. The first is hook-up sex. Hook up sex is all about your pleasure. You aren’t really concerned with the other person’s satisfaction or their feelings. Your goal is your own personal satisfaction.
This type of sex can be very fiery and passionate, but it’s lacking an emotional and spiritual connection. This is sex at its most basic and animalistic form. Tantric techniques can be used for this type of sex, and can greatly improve the sexual encounter. However, using Tantric sex in this way is really a misuse of the technique.
The second type of sex is married sex. You don’t have to be married to have married sex, but you do have to be in a committed relationship. When you don’t have sex as much as you used to, and the passion that you once had is lacking, you are having married sex.
You still feel love for each other, and there is an intimacy and emotional connection that isn’t present in hookup sex. However, you know it could be better.
The third type is making love. You may have experienced this at some point. There is a greater level of emotional connection and intimacy. You feel like you are sharing an experience and actually making love.
When you are done, you feel more connected and loving towards your partner, and you are satisfied emotionally and physically. Tantric sex is one way to move from having married sex to making love. It’s like changing your sex life from black and white to technicolor.
6 Easy Steps to Tantric Sex
Tantric sex can be very complicated. It can involve periods of going without sex, mantras, focusing on symbols, and hand gestures. I don’t have the time and patience for all of this, and I’m guessing you don’t either.
You probably want the benefits of amazing mind blowing sex without feeling like you have to learn another language or religion. The good news is, you don’t have to. Like most things, Tantric sex does come easier with practice, but you can start practicing tonight in 6 easy steps.
Take a little time to prepare your space for lovemaking. Light a candle, burn some incense, and put on some music to put you in the mood. Everyone’s idea of an intimate atmosphere isn’t the same, so do what makes you and your partner feel comfortable and sexy.
One of the simplest rituals is to sit and look into each other’s eyes for five minutes. You’ll be amazed how much more connected you feel. No talking. No touching. Just look into their eyes, which are said to be the window to the soul. You can also take a bath together, or give each other a Tantric massage. You’ll find methods for Tantric massage later in the article.
Intention is a very powerful thing. You’ll find intention is essential to everything from prayer to the law of attraction. For Tantric sex, you’ll want to have a specific intention, or goal, in mind.
Do you desire a more intimate relationship with your partner? More passion? More love? The ability to better love yourself? Whatever your intention is, keep it in mind as you engage in sex. This should be your primary goal instead of orgasm.
4. Focus On Your Senses
If you’ve ever meditated, you have some idea of what to do here. Focus on your breathing. What you feel. What you hear. What you see. The feel of your partner’s body under your hand. The way the sheets seem to caress your body like a lover. The taste of your partner’s lips.
Keep your focus on feeling instead of thinking. Let emotions and thoughts come and go without judgment. Experience it all, and be present in the moment. Not what happened at work that day or what you have to do tomorrow. Don’t focus on reaching orgasm. Be in the moment.
5. Move the Energy
Your sexual energy normally stays in your genital area. You want to move it through your body. Simply imagine the energy moving up through your body. Going all the way up to your head, and flowing back down in a continuous circuit. This awakens your entire body, and allows you to experience an orgasm with much more than your genitals.
6. Experience Orgasm
When you are ready, experience the most incredible orgasm you’ve ever had. You’ll experience it throughout your entire body, and it will last much longer than anything you’ve experienced before. You’ll also notice that the orgasm afterglow lasts much longer than anything you’ve experienced previously.
You should wake up with a more positive attitude and the sort of glow that you get when you fall in love. In a way, Tantric sex gives you the opportunity to experience falling in love with your partner over and over again.
Tantric Sex Positions
There are many different Tantric sex positions, but here are a few that don’t require years of yoga to be able to achieve. Most of these positions are a little more advanced than missionary. They are easy enough anyone can do them, but difficult enough that they will require you to communicate with your partner.
Rock a Bye
The man lays on his back, and the woman straddles him. Basically traditional girl on top position. Once the man is inside the woman, he raises up to a sitting position. This position allows for lots of eye and body contact, and limits thrusting abilities. This forces you to slow down and focus on enjoying the moment.
The Hot Seat
The man kneels down, and the woman kneels down in front of him. The woman’s legs should be between the man’s, and the man should lean back slightly. This position hits the woman’s g spot. You’ll have to work together to figure out how to move and what feels good in this position. Try going in a circular motion.
The butterfly gives the man ultimate control. To do this, the woman will need to lay on a surface where here pelvis is about a foot lower than the man’s. The woman rests her legs on the man’s shoulders and lifts her pelvis. The man puts his hands on her hips or butt to help support her and for maximum thrusting ability. This position allows for very deep penetration. It’s best to start slowly and build desire with this position. You can also do the one in five method. Give four very light thrusts and then one very deep one.
Side By Side
The side by side position is very easy to do. You and your partner lay on your side like you are spooning. The man should be in back. The woman can keep her legs closed for more friction and tightness, or spread her legs for greater penetration.
This position is perfect for more extended sex, because the position is easy for both partners to maintain. It’s also easy to alternate between going slow and speeding things up. This position frees up the hands of both partners, allowing them to stroke each other during sex as well.
It’s important to note that specific positions are not a requirement for Tantric sex. You can use any of your favorite positions. The key is to take things slow and focus on enjoyment of the moment instead of trying to quickly reach orgasm.
Tantric massage is a great presex ritual, but there are other uses for it as well. Tantric massage can be used for arousal, relaxation, and fostering feelings of love and intimacy between partners.
Set the Mood
When you are setting the mood for Tantric massage, you’ll want to consider what your purpose is. Music is very helpful for setting the mood. If you want to give your partner a relaxing massage, classical music works well.
There are also many free resources for Tantric massage music on Youtube. If you are giving your partner a massage as a part of foreplay, more amorous music is in order. Consider some soul music, or whatever gets you and your partner in the mood for passionate lovemaking.
Choosing an Oil
You can’ give a good Tantric massage without oil. You can buy many types of oils in sex stores that are designed for massaging. These should have a sexy appealing scent as well. You can also use other types of oil. Coconut, jojoba, olive, and almond oils are all wonderful for giving massages.
They are relatively inexpensive, and many of them can be found in the grocery store. You can also add a few drops of your favorite essential oils if you like. When choosing an oil, simply remember that anything that is safe inside your body is also safe on the outside of your body. The healthier the oil is, the more benefits your skin will receive from its application.
The technique that’s important for any type of Tantric massage is focusing on the connection between you and your partner. Both of you should focus on the connection that the contact is creating. This helps elevate the massage beyond being simply physical, and turns it into something more intimate
Most of us carry lots of stress in our back and shoulders, so this is a good place to start. Cross your thumbs and run it up your partner’s spine. Do this a few times, and then move out toward the shoulder blade. Then use your thumbs to massage their entire lower back.
For a full body massage, you can use whatever technique you and your partner enjoy. Just be sure that you do their entire body to keep things balanced. Your intention and connection with your partner are much more important than the specific technique you choose to use.
Sexual Tantric Massage
The above techniques are perfect for a relaxing massage, and they make the perfect base for a more sensual massage.
However, if your goal is to get your partner in the mood, here’s how to really get their fire going.
Bring your lips into light contact with the base of your partner’s spine, so that your lips are straddling their spine. Slowly exhale as you work your way up your partner’s back. Your breath will ignite their sensitivity and have them craving more.
A man’s legs actually have nerves that connect to their prostate and their genitals. Open your hand and start at the back of their ankle. Apply medium pressure and go all the way up their legs. Not only will they be grateful that their legs aren’t neglected, it will sexually stimulate them in a new way.
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies. Stop neglecting your man’s nipples! Most men find it very erotic for a woman to stroke their nipples or lightly suck on them. The nipples are a highly sensitive erogenous zone for men and women.
Women’s Breast Massage
To begin, you’ll put one hand on her heart and one hand on her vagina. Visualize the energy moving through her heart to your hands and down to her vagina. Then you’ll want to apply massage oil. Apply the oil with a gentle touch going in a circular motion. Start near the armpit and work your way around toward the center of the breast.
Then make gentle strokes from the nipple outward going all the way around the nipple. Then lift the breast slightly and press in. You’ll need to do this gently to avoid discomfort. Then you’ll want to massage the nipple. Put the nipple between two fingers and squeeze gently. The last step is to gently stroke the entire breasts with your fingertips. Start at the nipple and radiate outward.
Breast massage can help make breasts firmer and balance hormones in addition to getting her in the mood for other things. Breasts are the seat of a woman’s sexuality, and giving them lots of love and attention will make her more receptive.
Vaginal massage, also known as Yoni massage, can be intensely pleasurable and have a host of health benefits. It increases blood flow in the vagina, which can help with menopausal issues, painful intercourse, and loss of sensation. It also helps relax the pelvic floor muscles, which leads to more intense orgasms.
Of course, it also develops the intimacy that you have with your partner, and it can help a woman be uninhibited sexually and view her body more lovingly. Vaginal massage can be part of a full body massage, or a special treat on its own. It works best if the woman is in a relaxed state before it begins, however.
Breathing is very important during vaginal massage. Both partners should focus on deep breathing similar to meditation. If the receiver stops breathing or starts breathing shallowly, the giver should stop until the receiver gains control.
The woman should lay on her back with a few pillows under her head. She should be in a position to look at her vagina and her partner. Her legs should be spread open. You may prefer to place a pillow with a towel under her hips and a few to support her knees. This gives the giver the best access to the woman’s vagina.
If it isn’t part of a full body massage, begin by massaging her arms, legs, and abdomen to help her get relaxed. Pour some oil on the vaginal mound and let it run down the outside of the vagina.
Begin by gently massaging the mound and the outer labia. Take your time and enjoy giving your partner pleasure. Gently squeeze the outer labia between two fingers and run them up and down the entire labia. Do the same for the other side.
A penis massage, also known as a lingam massage, can be extremely pleasurable for a man. You’ll want to start by doing some deep breathing. The man should have a pillow under his head so that he can see the giver, and a towel covered pillow under his hips as well. He should lay with his legs spread. This gives the woman complete access to his genitals.
If it isn’t part of a full body massage, begin by massaging his arms and legs to help him relax. Then you will apply oil to the shaft of the penis and testicles. Start by gently massaging the testicles, and then move to the pubic bone. Next, gently massage the perineum. This is the area between the testicles and the anus. It is an extremely sensitive area that is often overlooked.
Then you will massage the shaft. Alternate speed and pressure. Communicate about what feels good. Rub the head of the penis with your fingertips or your palm. The penis may get hard and then soft during this massage. This is perfectly normal, and doesn’t impede the process in any way. If the man is nearing ejaculation, the woman should stop until he calms down a bit. This can also help a man to learn to control his ejaculation.
There are a few lucky men out there who can go as long as they want without getting off. There are others who can clearly have an orgasm and keep on going ( I know, I married one). Are these men born with some special talent that isn’t accessible to the average man? Fortunately, no. Interestingly, 15%-20% of men are capable of having multiple orgasms. You can too, it’s just a matter of learning how.
For a man, orgasm isn’t synonymous with ejaculation. We tend to think that they are, because they normally happen at the same time. Ejaculation actually occurs because your brain sends a message to your body to contract the muscles at the base of your penis, which essentially pushes the sperm out. However, you can separate your orgasm from ejaculation either by intervention, practice, or a combination of the two. Being able to orgasm without ejaculating can make it much easier for you to experience multiple orgasms.
There are two ways that are commonly used to prevent ejaculation when you orgasm. The first is the squeeze method. You stop sexual activity when you are about to orgasm, and squeeze the base of the penis. This is believed to block the travel of sperm through the shaft.
The other technique involves using the man’s “sacred spot”. This spot is a pea shaped indentation about halfway between a man’s testes and anus. When you push on this spot when a man is nearing orgasm, you can prevent ejaculation. This is also helpful in helping the man learn to control ejaculation without intervention.
We hear a lot about Kegels for females, but they may be even more important for men. If you can learn to control your pelvic floor muscles, you can learn to control your ejaculation. To train your pc muscles with Kegels, simply work on stopping peeing in midstream. This will help strengthen your pc muscles, and teach you how to control them. Once you are able to stop and start peeing without difficulty, you are ready to try it in the bedroom.
When you are about 80% of the way towards orgasm, tighten your pc muscles. Imagine the energy flowing up through your body as you do this. This should allow you to orgasm without ejaculation. Using this method, you may be able to have sex for hours if you wish.As with anything else these days, there’s also an app for that. Kegel Trainer and Stamena can both remind you when to do your Kegels and give you tips for success.
Tantra For One
Tantric sex or massage with a partner is amazing. However, you can do many of these things alone as well. If you don’ have a willing partner, or would simply like to get comfortable by practicing by yourself first, it’s easy to do so.
You can use the Tantric sex method for masturbation as well as sex. Just focus on your energy and loving yourself and your body. The breast, vaginal, and penis massages can all be performed alone as well.
Tantric sex is just what you need to spice up your love life and bring back that spice and connection that you’ve been missing. Tantra has immense benefits, whether you are practicing with a partner or on your own.