Taoism And Relationships

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If you find your relationships in life falling apart it may be time to turn to the teachings of the Tao.
Your relationship with your partner will be the most important relationship of your life so it’s importance should not be understated. If you have conflict and friction in your marriage the teachings of Taoism might help you to get back to “source” and find peace amongst chaos.
A happy and virtuous life is one that is in harmony with the Tao, with Nature.
Tao is vague and difficult to explain – it cannot be taught but rather has to be experienced.
Many relationship experts such as male PUA (pick up artists) and female relationship coaches use the principles within TAO without being aware of it’s power.
The Tao regulates natural processes and nourishes balance in the Universe. It embodies the harmony of opposites (i.e. there would be no love without hate, no light without dark, no male without female).
Yin Yang is a well known Taoist symbol. It represents the balance of opposites in the universe. When they are equally present, all is calm. When one is outweighed by the other, there is confusion and disarray.
Taoists follow the art of “wu wei,” which is to let nature take its course. For example, one should allow a river to flow towards the sea unimpeded; do not erect a dam which would interfere with its natural flow.(http://www.religioustolerance.org/taoism.htm)
You may have experienced the ability to attract people into your life (women) by taking no notice of them and following your path. When you run they follow –
When they run you follow. This is a poor and vague explanation. You may be aware of the attraction and benefit of “playing hard to get”.
As soon as you surrender your power and are caught the women or man in your life becomes less interested and you may start to repel each other in a sequence of repeating stages of attraction and repelling throughout the life stage of the relationship.
PUA artists teach men how to attract rather than chase women. They teach men how to find their own path and become the dominant male in their tribe rather than seeking respect and admiration where it is not due.
Only the intelligent knows how to identify all things as one. . . . When one is at ease with himself, one is near Tao. This is to let Nature take its own course. (Chuang Tzu)
Have you ever felt so confident and powerful that you could take on the world and win? Does this feeling of power come and go? Often these feelings and state of minds are fleeting because the world is so transient and changeable that it is difficult to remain at peace with oneself. One of the teachings of Tao is non action and effortless action – I believe that this does not mean that you sit around and become “lazy” but rather complete tasks effortlessly and without struggle because you are centered.
Your aim should not be to complete goals but to be so at peace with yourself every second of the day that you flow like a river to the sea. The sea is your goal , but you are unaware of this final destination. You flow around large trees and cascade down water falls as if they never existed. Rather than be rigid in your approach to (relationships) you are flexible and able to solve solutions to conflicts in many different ways.
The closer you are to source the more you will attract into your life: Everybody is seeking the same thing (peace) but few realise or take the time to understand what it really is.
Men seek peace through attainment of money but soon realise that material possessions make them poor.
Women seek peace through attainment of beauty but soon realise beauty is shallow and fleeing
To yield is to be preserved whole.
To be bent is to become straight.
To be empty is to be full . . .
To have little is to possess.

This reference to Tao and the Daodejing hopes to lead you toward peace and give you an insight into a different train of thought.
Rather than chasing and wasting emotional energy on worrying about women and dating learn the teachings of Taoism and learn to be at peace with yourself.
Rather than reading up on pick up information dating advice and dating stories in the forums EXPERIENCE the Dao in your day to day life… You will find the closer you are to source (your life path) the more you will attract into your life and the easier you will obtain everything you desire. This reference to source and path does not need to mean anything about religion but more a life philosophy and belief you now have.
Trust your instincts: this is the Tao attempting to speak to you. Using alcohol, food, excessive sex or hate to cover up issues in your life is like constructing a dam in front of your river. It only acts to slow the flow of energy that is trying to lead you to your sea (goal)
Everyone starts off with a healthy stream : YOU are the one that is in the way of your own source strength and Tao. Step out of the way and allow your natural passion for life and love to flow through you.
Taoist theology emphasizes various themes found in the Daodejing and Zhuangzi, such as naturalness, vitality, peace, “non-action” (wu wei, or ‘effortless effort’), emptiness (refinement), detachment, flexibility, receptiveness, spontaneity, the relativism of human ways of life, ways of speaking and guiding behavior

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