The Proven Dating Communication Master Fix

Secret benefits of understanding your partner’s point of view

If you are struggling to understand why your date, boyfriend, girlfriend spouse or ex is acting the way they are try to look at their situation from their point of view.

 

 

Seek first to understand then to be understood
 
 

You will likely want your voice your side of the argument and your viewpoint understood FIRST such that it might become a shouting match. Each person just wants to be understood within their own context… That’s all they want. Whether you agree or disagree with them is not the point they just want to be understood.
 

Once they feel that you have taken the time to truly understand where THEY are coming from , outside the bounds of your own ego THEN there is time for you to talk. Then there is time for the two of you to move forward and set aside your differences.
 

Problems arise between two people when they feel as they are not being understood and cared for by their partner. These arguments can be very easily solved if one person simply tried to look at the situation from a different viewpoint.
 

Why is it that the two of you are having conflict in the first point?
 

What does he/she want out of you and the situation
 

Which of their needs are not currently being met by you and your current situation.
 
For this Proven Dating Communication Master Fix to really be effective understand THIS

Note: that this is not about you!
 

It is about understanding THEM, because until they feel they are being understood they are not open to your suggestions.
 

Is is tough to completely give in and allow your guard down. By allowing them to speak first and understand your ex people think that you have lost or your ego is being injured. It is VERY honourable to be the first to “give in”
 

Do not feel as though there will be a winner and a loser from the situation as there is only ever a lose lose scenario from arguments. Both parties leave with little understanding of the others viewpoint.

Your spouse might be even more angry for not being heard or yelled at. You leave feeling angry again.
 

To restate the old cliché
 

Seek first to understand then to be understood
 

Let your guard down and recognise the huge benefits that come to you once you truly understand where the other person is coming from. Become a master of understanding and arguments will no longer be a part of your life.