There are plenty of things we say as guys that piss women off. The funny thing is that we are completely unaware of it. Women take what we say very emotionally. Men speak with an action or solution in mind for the conversation.
Letting a women know the truth about her weight or the dress she is wearing seems like we are doing them a favor. The reality is much different. There are some things you just shouldn’t say to women.
Trust me… you might think your being funny but it’s just not worth it in the long run. (they remember this shit!)
Don’t say: “You look tired.”
Why: You are suggesting that she actually looks bad. Anytime you suggest that a women looks tired (especially early on in a relationship) she will take it to mean your not happy with her appearance. It’s easier if you just don’t put that pressure on her.
Instead say: “How are you feeling?”
Don’t say: “Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!”
Why: Any reference to her previous weight will be taken as a negative reference.
Instead say: “You look amazing!”
Don’t say: “Your looking good… for your age”
Why: Once again your referring to her age in a negative frame. Your suggesting that she’s not actually that attractive because there is the age limiter.
Instead say: Just keep it nice and simple… “you look great” IF you want or feel like you need to explain yourself point at specific areas of her looks that you like. Specificity introduces authenticity. That dress looks amazing on you or those shoes match your top etc.
- Man, You Look So Much Like Your Mom!
- I would have invited you, but you’re no fun
- You Don’t Need Another Pair Of Shoes
- Come on, a few little cramps never hurt anybody
- What’s the big deal? You have another birthday next year
- Are You Sure The Dress Shrunk?
- That’s Not The Way My Ex Did It
“Your looking frumpy tonight”
frump, noun, A girl or woman regarded as dull, plain, or unfashionable.
frumpy, adj, primly out of date
The last thing a women wants to hear is that she is out of date or not stylish.
A great suggestion from marieclaire… Dont suggest that her dress is cheap or she did not spend much time on it…
You – “Oh you look amazing tonight – and it looks like you didn’t spend much time on it…”
It’s ok for girls to say:
Girl 1: “Oh wow, girl, you look great. Love that dress.”
Girl 2: “I know, right? Shoes? Target. Dress? Target. Bag? Target. $34 for the whole outfit.”
It’s not ok for you! She will think that your saying she is cheap.
The Morning After
Women are very sensitive after sex especially with the emotion of being abandoned.
If you run off early and utter something like – “well I’m off… nice to catch up” It’s very likely she will feel hurt.
“I’ll give you a bell mid week then?”
Again this is a touchy line because it suggests she is cheap and easy.